Pompeii Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 So last night, I talked to this girl I've liked for quite a while. I have crushes on some different girls, but she is by far the biggest. I was able to face my fear and talk to her and it went surprisingly well. She works in this media lab that's open to select students who take certain classes and I was able to get in there this semester because I'm taking a class in there. We talked and it was a great even exchange of ideas. I was able to deep dive to get her opinons on different things. She asked me questions and facilitated the conversation, surprisingly. Beyond her being really pretty, I like her because she has a lot of filling between her ears. The conversation was really natural and we talked about a lot of different things. It was a long way back to our dorms, so she offered me a ride in her car. It was great. The ride was about 5 minutes, but it seemed way too short. Overall, I feel the interaction went well. I was able to make somewhat of an impact and I didn't make a fool out of myself. However, I was evaluating the interaction in my head afterwards and I realized that I went wrong on several things. I communicated no sexual interest whatsoever and I refrained from touching her. One of the main reasons why I didn't talk to her sooner in the semester is because I didn't want my subsequent interactions to push me further in the friend zone. I also didn't want to go to long without talking to her, so that she didn't go cold on me. I also didn't want to touch her in a way that would weird her out. I know that if you don't touch, then you will never be more than friends, so it is important. I think I might have another chance to link up with her in another two weeks, so I want to make sure that I am ready. It'll probably be the same place but then this time I want to get her number and give her mine. She apparently lives 30 minutes away from me, so I want to be able to set a good tone for the summer coming up. What can I do to stay out of the friend zone, build sexual tension, while staying respectful at the same time?
PogoStick Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 You are reading a lot into a friendly conversation! Congrats for taking the first step but there are many more to go. You shouldn't hit on her in a professional setting or it could make things uncomfortable. Try talking about movies and then ask if she'd like to see one that just recently came out.
CryForNoOne Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 High fives are a great informal and friendly way of initiating touching. They remove that invisible barrier in a fun and respectful way. Then if she's open to more touching you'll know soon enough. Almost every women who is interested in a guy will find a way to brush her hand on your shoulder, back, etc...
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