Author tuxedo cat Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 That wasn't a categorical dismissal that there are no good looking guys on this forum. It was after I re-read the OP and he said "movie star looks" and asked how it is with women. I don't know what movie star looks means but I know when I looked my best, dressed well, wore Izod prescription sunglasses, bought a new GT, there was a lot of attention. I lived in NYC and I firmly believed that no one was coming to my house to discover me though. So I put myself out there every night either at School of Visual Arts or Pace University or trade associations, got invited into UN/NGO circles became publication designer, journalist all that kind of stuff. And if you're reasonably handsome and dress like you know how, yes, women will try to get to know you. You don't have to look like Don Johnson circa 1984. My kisser was good enough and being 6'3 and have blue eyes and a full head of hair helped me to feel like I should be pleased with myself. Ive been to hell a few times since so I can only speak in the past. I don't think a dude having a 6 pack automatically makes him good looking. Things that make for a good looking face of either gender is spacing and shape of eyes, proportionate nose, I had excellent teeth all of which I lost and now have implants. It's not the same though. You have to have symmetry. Ears basically at the same level. Real movie star looks I think include a Robert Redford jaw where it spreads out in the back or that kinda Harry Hamlin square head face. Symetry in the mug is a great start. I f you have dimples that aren't feminine that's a big plus. I notice women with dimples. And I have em too, it's like a clef in the chin or something--it gets people to look twice at you to explore your face. That can mean fame and fortune if you get a break. People like to stock their world's with people they like to look at. Movie star looks I guess would be just the face and have nothing to do with grooming, although obviously if someone has a bad body that could diminish their overall attractiveness. It's a bit silly to quantify these things but I'd say maybe 1% of men fall into this category. Anecdotally when I was working as a waitress there was this guy who came in who could easily have been a model. He was probably one in ten thousand. Women would throw themselves at him constantly. Even average looking women would have a go. He was very nice and polite but rejected all of their advances. Personally I wouldn't want to date someone that gorgeous. I would always feel insecure.
EasyHeart Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 You're soooo right! Wanna make-out out back anyways? Sigh. Alright. But you should at least buy me dinner so I don't feel cheap. Your avatar is confusing me! I read this and was trying to figure out why Hokie was asking EasHeart to make out. Never mind. Iris just ruined it. 3
tbf Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I dated a guy who was really good-looking. When we were out he'd always get looks and smiles from women. I'd get death-glares. There was a particularly amusing incident...we were ordering milkshakes. The girl who'd taken our order had given him an extra cherry and mine had only one, but mine was double-stemmed--it was clear the other had been ripped off. And I later discovered a hole in my drink cup. Yeah, had something similar where a waitress was being an absolute hag to me, where she was almost drooling over my husband. He took her to task for being so rude to me. Unfortunately for her, it was my turn to pay the bill. No tip. Your avatar is confusing me! I read this and was trying to figure out why Hokie was asking EasHeart to make out. Yes, the similar avatars confused me for a second too. Looks like we have another LS couple or something...haha... 1
Kamille Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Sigh. Alright. But you should at least buy me dinner so I don't feel cheap. Never mind. Iris just ruined it. Tsk. Why do hot guys always play hard to get? 1
Archgirl Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Your avatar is confusing me! I read this and was trying to figure out why Hokie was asking EasHeart to make out. be. Tee-hee! Isn't it fun! Did you conclude that he was tryin to recruit hotties to keep him snuggly in his can? Sigh. Alright. But you should at least buy me dinner so I don't feel cheap. Never mind. Iris just ruined it. Ohhhhh!! But but! I still have great hair!? Thanks a lot Iris! Totally cock-blocked! 3
carhill Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Do you have women throw themselves at you constantly? Do you rarely approach women? Do you find it harder to commit? Do you place a high value in the attractiveness of your partners? Or do you resent the attention you get for your looks and try to remove yourself from it? I had the experience of working with a former Wilhelmina teen model on a number of our projects (unrelated to modeling) while he was attending university (now graduated) and observing him with people, including young ladies, and women of all ages. 1. Yeah, women would approach him, invariably smiling, though less so when he was with his girlfriend (lovely lady, inside and out). 2. When he was single, he was very friendly with women but didn't overtly 'hit on' them, not while I was around anyway, and this was in public, like at the beach, at bars, etc. 3. He's been with his girlfriend for three years now and it looks like they're going to get married. IIRC, he's 24 and she's 26 now. 4. His girlfriend is an attractive young lady, not runway attractive, but a well-rounded and grounded lady. I talked with her extensively and would have been proud to have her as a daughter. 5. He never expressed frustration or annoyance, rather focused on other things, like his education and the construction work we were doing together (his father, who died in a construction accident, was a contractor and he learned the trades as a child) and, if anything, his 'looks' and whatever attention they garnered were apparently a non-issue, to him anyway. He's currently in the middle of patenting his first construction tool. Not bad for a young guy. So, with this one anecdote, I'd say it's been a mixed bag, trending to positive. Still a lot of life to live and life tends to throw curves. 1
Feelin Frisky Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 When I moved during high school and went from an all boys school to a co-ed school for the last half of the senior year, I was walking down the corridor and accidentally turned into the girls bathroom rather than the boys. I said "oops" sorry, and some girls said whoa, no stay. That turned an embarrassment into a bit of an ego boost.
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