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GUYS!!!! Is he just shy or not into me?


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Hey everyone! I have been friends with this one man for around 6 months now. I have had a boyfriend the first 5 months we knew each other so we were strictly friends but I was always attracted to him. We would joke around l, pick on each other and even flirt. I left my bf a month ago and started talkin to my guy friend. We been talking three weeks now, but we agreed to keep it wuiet because we font want drama from my ex. he has told friends about me who he knows do not know my ex, but we dont tell those who do. I have probably stayed the night with him 8-10 times, watched several movies, been shopping together, etc. he even offered me to stay and visit with his parents for a few hrs while he went in a business call. Yes, the boy lives with his parents because he is trying to finish his schooling and he is very close to them. His parents know me by name and I believe I am the only girl he brings around. I have also met his brother. This is where I'm stuck at: he flirts, picks on me, playfully hits me with his pillows, pays for things, cuddles with me at night, playfully squeezes my chest, tickles me and smiles alot.... BUT he has NOT kissed me! I have kissed him on the forehead a few times when I'm leavin for work and that's it. He is 8 months younger than me, I'm 24.....neither if us have kids.... Is he really that shy or what????

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he flirts, picks on me, playfully hits me with his pillows, pays for things, cuddles with me at night, playfully squeezes my chest, tickles me and smiles alot....

 

Yeah, I'm gonna make a guess he's into you.

 

I'm not sure how you've progressed to the playfully squeezing of chests phase of a relationship without kissing yet, though.

 

Maybe you take the initiative? I doubt he'll run away.

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He's just doesn't know what to do when it come to initiate intimacy. Today men have become very submissive and feminine. It's best if you initiate then he'll know what he can and cant do intimately with you.

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When I say play with the chest I mean like pinching my nipples or a quick second squeeze just to be a goober....and yes it does seen like he is shy, he is gradually getting more comfortable but I'm worried I might pressure him or kiss him too soon...

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He may have a touch of high functioning autism. Seems like he's missing a lot of big signals.

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Infinity sign.... U thinkin maybe he is thinking the same thing I am... He wants to kiss me but is too worried he will run me off if its too soon?

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Infinity sign.... U thinkin maybe he is thinking the same thing I am... He wants to kiss me but is too worried he will run me off if its too soon?

 

Yep exactly you guys are probably thinking the same thing lol

 

When a man initiate and is rejected they feel like their ego just got crushed.

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Same thing here though... What if he rejects when I try..and I almost don't have the guts to try.........I know I'm 24 and should know this but serious question... How do I initiative without seeming demanding or ... Well... Slutty.......no autism he is just pretty shy I'm sure cuz I'm basically doing the same thing... I learn what things r ok by what he allows or initiates

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Next time your playing around just kiss him on the lips.

 

Don't think about it.

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Same thing here though... What if he rejects when I try..and I almost don't have the guts to try.........I know I'm 24 and should know this but serious question... How do I initiative without seeming demanding or ... Well... Slutty.......no autism he is just pretty shy I'm sure cuz I'm basically doing the same thing... I learn what things r ok by what he allows or initiates

 

Dude. If he's playfully pinching your nipples, I'm going to go out on a limb and say he's not going to run away if you try to kiss him.

 

If you're already at a stage where you're cuddling and sort of physically fooling around, it's a pretty safe bet you can kiss him.

 

I mean, normally that stuff doesn't even happen until AFTER you've kissed, or at least shortly thereafter. Very few "men" are going to be "pressured" if you try to kiss him after all of that.

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Makes sense... And I know things r kinda outta order which is why I'm kinda like what the heck lol

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Wrestle and get on top of him, and just go straight for the kiss.

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playfully squeezes my chest,

No, he is just a nipple squeezing fiend. Come on, girls. :cool:

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