jusjus Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I`ve been dating this girl for 3 months now, and I feel I initiate everything : texts, dates etc. and when we do go out, she pulls away when I kiss her , won`t hold my hand and doesn`t reciprocate any intimacy. I also asked her for committment and she refused. Recently, I have noticed that her language and grammar change when `she` texts me on her days off which is leading me to think it`s guy slang - she is normally eloquent and polite whilst on working days but some of the language `she` uses is honestly so different with no punctuation at all (I could be paranoid, but it`s too obvious now to ignore.) She says she isn`t seeing anyone else but is always secretive when using her phone and I`m getting the feeling that a bloke is using her phone to text ME when she is with him and he has some sort of control over her. Anyway, I think you would agree, the signs are not looking good either way you dress it up. Help please!!
Treasa Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Stop dating her and find a girl who is more into you.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I`ve been dating this girl for 3 months now, and I feel I initiate everything : texts, dates etc. and when we do go out, she pulls away when I kiss her , won`t hold my hand and doesn`t reciprocate any intimacy. I also asked her for committment and she refused. Recently, I have noticed that her language and grammar change when `she` texts me on her days off which is leading me to think it`s guy slang - she is normally eloquent and polite whilst on working days but some of the language `she` uses is honestly so different with no punctuation at all (I could be paranoid, but it`s too obvious now to ignore.) She says she isn`t seeing anyone else but is always secretive when using her phone and I`m getting the feeling that a bloke is using her phone to text ME when she is with him and he has some sort of control over her. Anyway, I think you would agree, the signs are not looking good either way you dress it up. Help please!! You're never going to know about if someone else is using her phone to text you. So don't work yourself up about it. But, this girl sounds lukewarm. Some girls are shy and don't like public displays of affection...I'm one of them. But when you asked for commitment and she refused, that was your big sign. You deserve someone better than this for you.
Harlequin_Dog Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Sounds like she's not into you. Stop contacting her and let her go. She straight out told you she doesn't want anything with you....why are you continuing to contact her??
Author jusjus Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 Sounds like she's not into you. Stop contacting her and let her go. She straight out told you she doesn't want anything with you....why are you continuing to contact her?? Thank you for the reply, well she said she doesn`t want to be together YET but will probably want to in the future, so right now there is no rush and she wants to keep things as they are... She could be seeing how much I really like her - therefore willing to wait??
Author jusjus Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 You're never going to know about if someone else is using her phone to text you. So don't work yourself up about it. But, this girl sounds lukewarm. Some girls are shy and don't like public displays of affection...I'm one of them. But when you asked for commitment and she refused, that was your big sign. You deserve someone better than this for you. Most of our dates are at her flat and she never initiates any physical contact and doesn`t want me to kiss her - but why see me for 3 months???
foreverandalways Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Thank you for the reply, well she said she doesn`t want to be together YET but will probably want to in the future, so right now there is no rush and she wants to keep things as they are... She could be seeing how much I really like her - therefore willing to wait?? ^^ This equals "I'm still checking out my options to make sure there is no one better before I decide to get exclusive with you." Sorry.
Author jusjus Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 ^^ This equals "I'm still checking out my options to make sure there is no one better before I decide to get exclusive with you." Sorry. why sorry? - thanks for the reply
GorillaTheater Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Most of our dates are at her flat and she never initiates any physical contact and doesn`t want me to kiss her - but why see me for 3 months??? Sorry man, but you're just a time-filler for her. If she doesn't even want a kiss, she's not into you at all. Which begs the question: why did you even bother asking her for a commitment? You're being a bit clingy, and you don't have anything to cling onto. Next.
Treasa Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 If she's willing to let you see other girls, she's not that into you. Sorry. Would you let something you value lay around so that someone else could take it? Me either.
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