Meeting ex for Coffee, now what?

[crederer]

My ex and I broke up 7 weeks ago. We are meeting up tonight to exchange some of our stuff that was left at each others places, and have a short talk. She dumped me (seemingly GIGS syndrome) and I want her back. I have mixed emotions about it but ultimately if I could, I would be her man right now. I don't know if I should try to get her back by discussing this with her, or if I should just act as though I'm good with my life (which I am at this point). I don't need her, but I want her. The advice on other web sites seems to be "act as though you're fine, act as though you did when you were first met each other, remind her of the good times, drop hints that you're seeing someone else, etc". This to me seems basically like reverse psychology, which does not seem to be the greatest way to go about it.

 

Also, I have been seeing someone very casually. How should I respond if she asks this question? I don't want to scare her away completely if she's still somewhat interested. At the same time, I want her to know that I'm fully capable of moving on without her and she doesn't hold all the power.

 

Any thoughts?

[Infnitysign]

Be friendly and don't bring up the relationship and don't ask for a second chance. Be cheerful and enthusiastic on your little meet up and just act like you're perfectly fine without her in your life.

 

Being counter intuitive works really well with women psychology.

[crederer]

Thanks for the response. That's the thing I've been hearing most, but to me, it seems like that might back fire if I want her back....

[Infnitysign]

Thanks for the response. That's the thing I've been hearing most, but to me, it seems like that might back fire if I want her back....

 

Thats the point you shouldn't care if she comes back or not. You are and should act like a self assured man. She'll probably read your non verbal signs, like in your body movement or how you smile or even look at her.