foreverandalways Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Not asking for any specific purposes, just wondering some thoughts. How much time do you feel is ideal to spend with your partner per week? Basically for couples that do not live together. Do you like spending all of your extra time with them? Do you enjoy a few nights a week alone?
todreaminblue Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Not asking for any specific purposes, just wondering some thoughts. How much time do you feel is ideal to spend with your partner per week? Basically for couples that do not live together. Do you like spending all of your extra time with them? Do you enjoy a few nights a week alone? I think it should progress naturally .......starts out one or two nights a week and just let .....it progress.....never forced
Author foreverandalways Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 I think it should progress naturally .......starts out one or two nights a week and just let .....it progress.....never forced I think so as well. Basically do what feels natural. My bf and I spend 3 nights a week together and mostly all day sunday. The rest of the days we text back and forth a bit, but don't usually see each other. I think it works that way, because we dont force things and rush things along. At some point we may live together, who knows. But it's nice to have the "us" time and the "me" time. Just curious about everyone else and how their relationships work.
january2011 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 It depends on the couple's circumstances, their schedules and their need for space/interaction/physical presence in the relationship. If you want an arbitrary figure, for a standard couple, working full-time, who live not more than an hour's travel from each other, I'd say two weekday nights and one full day at the weekend, with potential overnighters. However, I'm in an LDR, so our circumstances are slightly different. We spend most of our spare time on Skype, including sleep-Skyping.
iris219 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 It depends on the couple. My bf and I spend, on average, 3 or 4 nights together because that's all we can manage right now. We would do more if we could. We recently spent our longest consecutive time together: Thursday night, Friday night, all day Saturday, all day Sunday, including Sunday night. It was awesome. I don't mind having a night alone, but I don't need it; I'd rather be with him. I'm alone tonight and I can't wait until we get to see each other tomorrow night. 1
KraftDinner Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 We live together so this maybe doesn't count, but I'd ideally like to spend as much time with him as I can. 1
ForeverHopeful1 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 When I was dating my husband and we didnt live together, we would spend 3-5 nights a week with one another depending on the week. We didnt live too far, but it wasnt around the corner either. Sometimes we spent every day together, sometimes we would only see each other on weekends. Over the last 9 years, our relationship has changed drastically many times. When we started living together, he often travelled for work to a different city or worked nights so we didnt really get to spend as much time together as we would have liked, so I had a lot of time to myself and with friends because I didnt have him home with me all the time. I really enjoyed the weekends he just wanted to spend with me, alone. I understood that due to working nights, or being away from home for work, he also had friendships to maintain so I had to share him a little bit. We managed. I had the luxury of spending time with friends while he didnt. Now that we are married and living a more stable life with him home and now that we are both working normal hours, I see him every single day and spend my weekends with him (sometimes he goes hunting with the boys or up to the cottage) and sometimes I go out with friends, so about once a week, I go see a friend. I dont get to hang out with my friends as much as I used to, but we are all at different places. We make time when we can. I would like to spend lots of time with my husband but he would drive me insane if I had to spend every minute with him. I love him to bits! But every second of the day would be bad for us. Lol My fave night is coming home, making dinner together, eating at the dinner table (with no tv on!!!,) and cuddling while watching something that makes us both laugh. We often chit chat throughout the night about this or that and catch up on the day... Fortunately, I am pretty easy to please. I am just happy to have him around and happy he wants to spend his time with me too. 1
ForeverHopeful1 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 However, I'm in an LDR, so our circumstances are slightly different. We spend most of our spare time on Skype, including sleep-Skyping. What is this sleep skyping you speak of?
january2011 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 What is this sleep skyping you speak of? We leave Skype running when we fall asleep, so we get to watch each other sleep while we're doing other things (there's a time difference). And we also get to be there on most days when one or both wakeup - assuming Skype hasn't crashed on us in the middle of the night. 1
Author foreverandalways Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 We leave Skype running when we fall asleep, so we get to watch each other sleep while we're doing other things (there's a time difference). And we also get to be there on most days when one or both wakeup - assuming Skype hasn't crashed on us in the middle of the night. Aww, that's cute. So you feel like you get to spend more time together. It's great that you found avenues that help make your LDR work. 1
Silly_Girl Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 When we first started seeing each other I wasn't working so there was much more opportunity than if I'd been in my job; we had one evening one week, then two evenings and a lunch the next week. Then 2 evenings and 2 lunches. And so on. Within a few weeks we were automatically seeing each other 5 or so times a week with a couple of overnights thrown in. We live together and we think the balance is perfect. We spend our spare time together, but his shifts mean 3 times a week he's out in the evening, and he only gets 40% of weekends off. He tends to socialise with daytime sports, so does that on his days off when I'm at work, and I am a wine-and-chatter-with-friends kinda gal, so I have chances to do that when he's at work and I still get lots of one-to-one time with my son (if I can pin him down!!). It doesn't matter if one of us is out and one's in but we're crazy for each other at the moment so we try and match up our schedules as much as possible.
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