Estate Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 ... and you don't know anyone. You've settled in. You're busy at your new job. You've done the "usuals", like joined some clubs, some sports, some meetups... You don't sit at home, you get out around the city. You've met some acquaintances through the things you've joined, even if not "life long friends"... You go out at the weekends often, you approach girls, you get lots of numbers, lots of dates, take a lot of girls home... ... but something still missing. It still isn't "your" town. The girls you are meeting are fun, maybe you can meet them a few times or hangout or have some fun but you're just not meeting anyone of any great "quality". The small circles you have are still made up of out-of-towners trying to find their way too and don't offer much in the way of meeting people through mutual friends. What do you do? I know plenty people who've done the same, I see on their facebook and things how they settle in within a few months, actively seek friends and find a relationship all within a few months. I see it all the time but I don't really meet or hear from those who have the success stories. My life is great otherwise. I wouldn't be perceived as someone who has "trouble getting women" but rarely meet anyone of any substance or someone I really want to pursue a relationship with, someone who challenges me, someone who appears to be my type of have very much of the things I appreciate in a partner. Any suggestions beyond "Join a club....?". How would you actively put yourself out there and in positions to meet new and quality people? Viable dating options?
Divasu Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Hmm. Well let's see... My cousin met his now wife through a friend-of-a-friend when he moved back here from another state. One of my best friends met her now boyfriend when she moved, through work (not a co-worker, but a friend of her co-worker). Another friend met her boyfriend (well, now ex) through work when she moved out of state. So, keep hanging out with friends and co-workers. :)
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Hmm. Well let's see... My cousin met his now wife through a friend-of-a-friend when he moved back here from another state. One of my best friends met her now boyfriend when she moved, through work (not a co-worker, but a friend of her co-worker). Another friend met her boyfriend (well, now ex) through work when she moved out of state. So, keep hanging out with friends and co-workers. :) OP is a guy. Your examples are bad because your friends are girls. It's easy for girls to meet guys wherever they go.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 ... and you don't know anyone. You've settled in. You're busy at your new job. You've done the "usuals", like joined some clubs, some sports, some meetups... You don't sit at home, you get out around the city. You've met some acquaintances through the things you've joined, even if not "life long friends"... You go out at the weekends often, you approach girls, you get lots of numbers, lots of dates, take a lot of girls home... ... but something still missing. It still isn't "your" town. The girls you are meeting are fun, maybe you can meet them a few times or hangout or have some fun but you're just not meeting anyone of any great "quality". The small circles you have are still made up of out-of-towners trying to find their way too and don't offer much in the way of meeting people through mutual friends. What do you do? I know plenty people who've done the same, I see on their facebook and things how they settle in within a few months, actively seek friends and find a relationship all within a few months. I see it all the time but I don't really meet or hear from those who have the success stories. My life is great otherwise. I wouldn't be perceived as someone who has "trouble getting women" but rarely meet anyone of any substance or someone I really want to pursue a relationship with, someone who challenges me, someone who appears to be my type of have very much of the things I appreciate in a partner. Any suggestions beyond "Join a club....?". How would you actively put yourself out there and in positions to meet new and quality people? Viable dating options? I'm in the same situation as you, OP. I moved cross country recently. I've hung out with girls from work and girls that I met in bars and party atmospheres. Just be friendly and social. This weekend, I have a date with the daughter of a waitress that works at a restaurant I frequent (it's a blind date....the waitress thinks I'm awesome and her daughter just got out of a relationship). Just be cool with people and they'll hook you up if they know what you're looking for.
Divasu Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 OP is a guy. Your examples are bad because your friends are girls. It's easy for girls to meet guys wherever they go. My cousin is a male.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 My cousin is a male. Correct me if I'm wrong, but he met his wife AFTER moving back from another state, no?
Divasu Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Correct me if I'm wrong, but he met his wife AFTER moving back from another state, no? Yes. He also met his (now ex) when he moved to another state due to work. The point is, he met them through other people, whether it be through work or friends, after he moved to a new location.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Yes. He also met his (now ex) when he moved to another state due to work. The point is, he met them through other people, whether it be through work or friends, after he moved to a new location. Haha fair enough. PS: Stop being so hot in your new pic. It makes it difficult to argue with you.
Divasu Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Haha fair enough. PS: Stop being so hot in your new pic. It makes it difficult to argue with you. I was about 5 seconds away from releasing the kraken...Phew, situation avoided.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I wouldnt flirt with this one unless you want to be in tip top shape all the time and dont mind doing all the chores. I said she looks hot on a random internet forum. I didn't propose marriage. Maybe I am in tip top shape. Maybe I'm a model with tons of money that loves doing chores. Or maybe I'm not. Who knows?
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Thanks for the hijack guys... I left you solid advice at the beginning of the thread lol
Divasu Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I'd offer more advice but I don't want to be accused of demanding her significant other do 5 hours of treadmill in-between all the chores. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I'd offer more advice but I don't want to be accused of demanding her significant other do 5 hours of treadmill in-between all the chores. I want to hit on you so hard right now.
Divasu Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I want to hit on you so hard right now. I only respond to talk about...um...chores.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I only respond to talk about...um...chores. Well, spring cleaning is one of my favorite things to do. 1
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