foreverandalways Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 NGC, Do you know what's even more unattractive is to find a man (in a bar, on a dating site, whatever)...only to find out that they have a child (or two or three) and they think it's funny that they work for cash, so their child's mother can't collect child support. Or that are every other weekend dads, and don't even want to take care of them THEN. Or the ones who haven't ever even seen their child because they didn't want the responsibility. Have a bit more respect for the women who take care of their child regardless of the situation. 1
iris219 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 If you feel disgust or resentment for other people's children, then you shouldn't date women with children. It is your right not to want to. You are, however, being very judgmental. Being a single parent doesn't make a woman a bad, immoral person. You don't know why the woman is a single parent and you don't seem to care. Anyone who has sex could end up pregnant, even if they think they're taking precautions. If you've had sex, you could have gotten someone pregnant. People make mistakes and accidents happen. As you know, it takes two people to make a baby, but you seem to be blaming women. Btw, I am not a single mom nor have I ever been pregnant so my response isn't personal.
xxoo Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Every time I see a remotely attractive woman online, surprise surprise; she's a single mom. Have you considered there may be a reason for that? How many young, single, attractive, child-free women need a dating site to get asked out? Single moms are busier, and may have fewer opportunities to mix with single guys, so they resort to OLD. Why are you resorting to OLD?
Mint Sauce Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 NGC1300 (beautiful galaxy btw), you seem to have offended quite a few over-sensitive people here, while I think you're up for an honest discussion. I am dating a single mom. To some extend I agree with your criticism that so many young people failed to protect their offspring by choosing their partner more wisely. However, I would prefer to call that naivete, rather than stupidity. IMO, the problem is that life is getting so complex that a discrepancy emerges between the best physical age and the best mental age for child bearing. By consequence, some women have children when their body is in best shape for that, i.e. early twenties, but their and their partner's character is still developing, leading to many failed marriages with kids involved. Other people wait till their character has "settled" but then face fertility issues. My ex-wife and I did not allow time to pressure us into kids, and since we divorced, one could say that was a wise decision. But the end result is that she will never have kids of her own. My current gf, a single mom, was less careful and went ahead with her exH to have a kid. I don't blame her. I think she made the right choice. It is just too difficult at that early age to see what your partner will evolve into. Her exH changed character entirely, which was impossible for a young woman to foresee.
Got it Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 It's honestly becoming the rule; not the exception. All I see around me are single moms in their 20's, usually with multiple kids. It just paints such a bleak picture. Nobody makes anything work these days, nobody takes anything seriously, and nobody knows anything of responsibility. It is sickening. Every time I see a remotely attractive woman online, surprise surprise; she's a single mom. If the kids have grown up, that's one thing. But I'm still young enough where I might want a family of my own. Personally, I can't think of anything more degrading that raising some others mans kids, or even having to be around them for that matter. Anyway, I'm just frustrated. I don't think I could ever date a single mom; wondering if anyone else has made it work? Really? Why would that be a negative? I don't know, I have step kids and I have no emotions anywhere close to degrading towards my interactions with them. I don't understand the need for the same genetics to have a connection; I also am highly supportive of adopting. And a woman may be a single mom because she never was married, never had a man tied to the kids, or is a widow.
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