michellecee Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and he just ended things with me. Over the weekend I went to the bar with some friends and I had too much to drink and I ended up kissing another guy. Afterwards I felt sick to my stomach and I couldn't lie to my boyfriend about it and he ended things with me. I know what I did was wrong and it's my fault that things ended but he was my best friend I could tell him anything and now I dont know what I'm going to do without him in my life anymore. I cant eat, sleep, or focus on any of my schoolwork and I just don't know what I'm going to do anymore without him in my life. Help please :(
Zahara Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 He was your best friend and you could tell him anything but you chose to kiss another guy? You don't betray trust of a best friend. I've had much to drink in my young and stupid days and still knew what lines not to cross. You just threw away four years because of a bottle and an itch. Hard lesson. Besides, it does say something about how much you valued your commitment. Learn from your mistake and use your sense if you know you can't control yourself when you drink. No one can help you. You just have to live with it and move on.
Dragi3169 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I really can't sympathize with you either . You crossed a line you just don't cross and in all honesty he had every right to dump you. That doesn't make you a bad person but it does tell the guy he can't trust you. The best thing you could do is pray with time he forgives you
youaremysunshine Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I think it was just a stupid mistake. I mean a kiss can happen in a blink of an eye, especially if it's the guy who wants to kiss you.
Zahara Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I think it was just a stupid mistake. I mean a kiss can happen in a blink of an eye, especially if it's the guy who wants to kiss you. Especially if the guy wants to kiss you? You have no self-control? You don't know how to say no? Besides, there must have been some flirting going on way before the alcohol kicked into full gear and the ultimate kiss. Yes, a stupid mistake that cost her a 4 year relationship and a good guy. He has every right to walk away. Trust is gone.
youaremysunshine Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I mean I've had drunk guys just go for it. I was single but not interested at all. It's not the same deliberate process as going home with someone.
youaremysunshine Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 you can push him off, but it's still an unexpected kiss
Zahara Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 you can push him off, but it's still an unexpected kiss That's different than what the OP had going. She ended up kissing a guy...sounds consensual.
Am4Real Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I can't say I blame him; I would dump you in a second. Sorry...you crossed the line. Learn from your mistake and understand these words: Love = chemistry, loyalty, truth and dedication. 1
freetolove Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 you made a big mistake. figure out how to make it up to him. it's just a kiss. but you were wrong. figure out how to fix it.
aisuru Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 You need to figure out why you thought it was okay to kiss another guy while in a relationship. That's all.
FailedFirstLove Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 my bf broke up with me. And I never once cheated on him. I think I have more sympathy for myself
lonewalker Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Make it up to him. If u still loves him. But be prepared to mend the trust. At least u told him about it. I dont think it is a dead end mistake. But he has the right to dump u. But if it is only a kiss.. then u got to make it up to him.
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