Do you invite your MM/MW into your home?

[TheOW]

Oh dear, when you are a real part of someone's life you are invited out of the shadows, into their home and around their children. It's as simple as that.

 

I wasnt part of his "real" life though I was part of him .. difference, annd the same goes for him in my life.

[TheOW]

I can just shake my head that you know/knew this and it was ok. It was enough for you. It's no way to love.

 

It was enough at the time, so dont pretend you know how we felt with your black and white views

[TheOW]

Do you agree it is no way to love?

 

Its not no but when you are in an A you dont see it like that, both A partners are happy with what they can get from each other, its obsessive and destructive and its not until you are finally free from it that you see it for what it was.

 

Yes we were in love but it wasnt and never will be enough.

[Got it]

Kristi, your personal feelings and opinion are WELL known now. How well do you need to beat this dead horse?

 

Lima Charlie.

[TheOW]

There is a difference between feeling love and doing something that represents love.

 

As QS said: Many absent fathers that leave their children behind to seek new romance with another woman often say they love the kids.

 

Did you see the movie "NoWhere Boy" which depicts the early life of John Lennon? JL's mother gave him up at age 5 and he was raised by Aunt Mimie who never said ILY, but cared for him deeply.

 

At age 17 JL reconnects with with bio mother who constantly says ILY. JL is puzzled by this. But, make no mistake about this. Julia loved JL and the ILys came from the heart. However, these ILYs were never backed by any action.

 

This is the type of love some MOW and MOM feel for the AP. It is nothing but a sensation. And when the chips are down there is no action.

 

Lol no its not maybe for you with your numerous EA but not for me nor him, we loved each other but knew it couldnt and wouldnt work and were happy with what we could get from each other. We never spouted about how much we loved each other either, it was mentioned twice it didnt need to be constantly said.

[loredo21]

Although I agree this behavior is sick, exMOM had mementos all over his car (that was in HER name I might add) from our dates...even PICTURES in the visor...um yeah. He wanted to see those things everyday, he wanted to look down or up at those things and think of me. That was his way of letting me in his life. In that respect I was out in the open. I think it is a crappy thing to do and very risky, yes. And although I think things around the house are a little too much and creepy, there are reasons for those things being there.

[William]

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