TheGuard13 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Ok, so I broke up with my girlfriend about three weeks ago. About a week and a half ago I started seeing a new girl. She's attractive, sexy, creative, talented, funny, interesting and very mature about things from everything I can see. So naturally I was looking for the catch here. We've seen each other a couple of times. I spent the night there last night, and she left to go run an errand this morning, leaving me in her home alone. I was going to take a nap upstairs when I saw that she had a book about dealing with your own bipolar disorder on her nightstand beside the bed. She also left a bunch of paperwork about the subject lying out. Now, I don't so much have a problem with the fact that she's bipolar. I've dealt with depression myself for years, I married a woman who was bipolar and probably borderline, and I have a couple of friends who are bipolar. I understand how to handle the issues that can arise, and the risks and possible issues involved, and I honestly care more about how people act rather than whatever mental condition they're labeled with. But in the interest of communication between us...for anyone who is bipolar, or who has dated someone who is...should I bring up the fact that I know she deals with this? Should I let her tell me in her own time, or should we just get it out of the way early on? I don't think she's trying to hide it or anything, since she left the book and the paperwork out in plain sight. She's been pretty open and honest about everything else up to this point.
ForeverHopeful1 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Let her bring it up. She will. Dont be the guy who was left unattended at her home (she trusted you) and went through her things. I know she "left things out in the open" but you didnt have to snoop, however easy it was to find this stuff. She will think youre a creep. I would. Just let her come to you on this. If she has been open, honest and upfront until now, she will come to you when she is ready. I have known things about my husband long before he told me but I am of the belief that "people tell you things when they want you to know." He has thanked me many times for allowing him the courtesy of being able to open up when HE was ready, not when I was ready. If he wanted me to know, I would have been told. Just my 2 cents. Let her come to you, especially if she has been forthcoming with everything thus far. 2
ForeverHopeful1 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I know that "snooping" isnt necessarily what you were doing, but it may be how she sees it if you bring it up and ask her about it. I dont think youre a creep or a snoop, but worry that is how you will be seen if you bring it up before she tells you. If she wanted you to know right now, she would tell you right now.
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