Driver Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 My boyfriend has the biggest heart but has a little bit of trouble connecting and opening up to others. He was an orphan in Russia until he was adopted at the age of 12...so I assume that his difficulties have something to do with his rough past. We've had some issues in our relationship because it's a) sometimes a little difficult to get him to engage in close, connected, intimate conversation and b) sometimes it's difficult for him to open up. I also think he may lack the self awareness that comes with connecting with others. Things have gotten so much better and he has really grown in our relationship. I was just wondering if any of you had any tips or book suggestions for someone like this. Even if he isn't open to reading these books, maybe it will be helpful if I do!
meghann8 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Maybe he doesn't want to scare you away with his past. In that case, I'd let him know that his past is the past, and you like him for who he is right now. He may also not want to relive what's happened in his past. He enjoys what's going on right now and is content with his life. He may intuitively know that bringing up the past may ruin the present for him. Only time will tell. Sometimes it takes people a few weeks to open up, and others take years. Sorry, I don't know of any books on this topic.
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