boblet Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Sigh, yesterday my friend told me she ran into my ex on the subway, so weird there's SO many trains I don't know what were the chances.... anyway, just hearing about him made my heart jump since I don't really know what he's been up to... so I did something stupid and creeped his Instagram pictures... a little while after she told me she saw him, he posted a picture about you can't stop loving cute girls or something and captioned that there's only one he loves... wow. It was my mistake to creep that's for sure I feel like sh*t now.... in the space of 2 years he NEVERRR posted pictures like that about me, in fact, his lack of affection was an issue for us, and now all of a sudden he loves someone else? Mind you, he never told me he loved me after 2 years :S Ah I really let curiosity get the best of me and now I'm paying the price for it I almost feel betrayed a bit, I know it's been a while and I can't give him wrong for moving on, but why is he doing things for someone else that he never did for me? I mean, I forgave him after cheating and it still wasn't enough for him? Even the way he dresses now from the pictures I saw, damn he wasn't making all that effort for me. Sigh. I have so much to get done today and I feel so unmotivated now. Moral of the story... don't creep.
Dragi3169 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Screw him you don't need a guy like that in your life. Especially if he never said I Love you in 2 years. Keep your head up and know one day you'll find the man you deserve who will treat you the way you want to be treated
Author boblet Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 Thanks for your reply Yeah I know for sure I deserve wayyy better. I think it's more my ego being hurt and rejection more than anything else, sure this is the case for many of us on here
Dragi3169 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I feel ya . I'm going through a break up with the only women I ever loved . I gave her the world and every drop of my soul but that didn't matter she still dumped me with the usual I don't know if ill ever love you as much as you love me. What a load of Bull**** I'm now starting to understand she didn't deserve me and it is her loss my gain.
maiden555 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Ugh, it sucks so much. I creeped on my ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend's instagram, as I'd been in the habit of doing. I saw he started following her since we broke up. This shredded me apart. And I had myself to blame (although I never thought I'd see him there, i just had a fascination with her). I'm sorry you saw that. So much of what goes on in social media is BULLSH*T. People present their best selves and what they think other people will be impressed with. I'm pretty sure in my case, the ex has done intentional stuff on social media for me to see. Maybe yours is doing the same, but either way you are better off and you will find someone who shows you off
cavalier99 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Sorry boblet. No moree creeping onto instagram. LOL. Just back to NC. My heart strings are getting a workout with this fiery new Latina girl and it is alittle unnerving. Not sure if im up for it. Dealing with feelings is soo difficult. I was getting used to dealing with the BU feelings and now I feel like I have been caught unprepared.
Author boblet Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 Man f@#$ social media lol it's the devil. I feel horrible lol and I know he isn't worth it. Back to NC now but wow this has been a huge setback. I was looking for your post on Na's thread but there's so many lol. Is this the same latina you felt was getting too attached/clingy? You don't get that vibe anymore? I can understand your hesitation for sure. I actually just read this quote, "If you tell yourself it will take a long time before you can Love again, you will create that. Be open to the Love that is here now." So I say if you feel like she has potential, go for it with cautious optimism But what is it about her that has intrigued you so far and has you feeling unnerved though? Does it feel like RS potential? I know it's been a while since you've dated, maybe it can be an adjustment also to feel connected to someone after spending all that time alone dealing with the BU feelings
Author boblet Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 Ugh, it sucks so much. I creeped on my ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend's instagram, as I'd been in the habit of doing. I saw he started following her since we broke up. This shredded me apart. And I had myself to blame (although I never thought I'd see him there, i just had a fascination with her). I'm sorry you saw that. So much of what goes on in social media is BULLSH*T. People present their best selves and what they think other people will be impressed with. I'm pretty sure in my case, the ex has done intentional stuff on social media for me to see. Maybe yours is doing the same, but either way you are better off and you will find someone who shows you off I agree, that's for sure, and to me he doesn't seem himself with the amount of attention he's looking for on there. But I guess it doesn't matter because I don't know that person anymore. I know he was doing some things on purpose for me to see a while back, but now I'm assuming he's moved on. Ugh. so tired of this. I hope you've managed to break that habit, I know what that's like, it feels like second nature. But it really gets you nowhere and every time you creep, it's a dagger to your heart, especially knowing they don't want you and think they're better off without you. Baby steps
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