Melonballer Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 This is going to be long but there's so much to say! Ok, met a woman at the gym. She instructs around 5 classes. The first day I turned up, I just got this vibe that she was interested. She was looking at me a fair bit, watching me while I worked out etc. And I pretty much fell for her instantly. She added me on Facebook and eventually we exchanged numbers (I gave her mine not the other way round). We have chatted on Facebook and through text lots. I got drunk and basically showed my hand - I didn't say I like her in so many words but said she was he reason I went to the gym, plus that she had an amazing body etc. And she didn't respond much, but to be fair I didn't even really know her - she said she loves training people so it was great to hear. I continued to feel the vibe from her though, felt her eyes on me a lot. I flirted openly, and on some level, she responded. I wondered whether she was lesbian / bi and hoped she was. Then she said she wanted to walk with me away from the gym (she quickly said that she does this with everyone, and I know that to be true). So we got together (walking her dog & my daughter) and she looked amazing. First time seeing her outside the gym & her hair was long (rather than tied back) and she was wearing make up etc. she seemed a little nervous too. Then I stole myself not to text her all evening after it. She text me first a nice message about liking seeing me & conversation ended with that she was looking forward to seeing me next day (when we were walking together again). Then next time, she hadn't made an effort so much with her appearance. And while we were walking she mentioned exes who were men & that she wanted desperately to have kids before her time ran out. I'm so disappointed that she basically said she wants a man. I'm so confused and new to this. Why did she flirt & ask to see me twice or am I getting it all wrong??? I have fallen for her big time. And I can't work out of she is bi or even curious. HelP me!!!
tricolors Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I'm a man, but: I'm a gym rat myself. I see a lot of women make new friends and then start working out with said new female friends. I have personally witnessed women complimenting women on their bodies if they're in really good shape, and I know they're not lesbians. Women seem to enjoy that kind of thing with each other, everyone loves a compliment. I think you might be misreading her signals. You said you know she walks with other women. You said she's talking about men. Let's look at it this way: A lot of men mistake a woman's friendliness or even light flirting as interest. I imagine lesbians / bisexual women are capable of doing the same thing with women they're interested in. But...if you really think she's flirting back with you, depending on how heavy you were hinting at her...maybe she is curious. If, perhaps, she's never been with a woman before, she may be WAY too shy to ever admit it to you without you initiating something first. Why don't you try asking her out for a drink or something? Maybe if she's interested in something with a woman, after a couple of drinks she might tell you.
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