BenBeach Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Had a great instant connection with a beautiful woman. We started to date and although all the signs were there that she wasn't ready for a relationship, I developed feelings none the less. After several weeks she admitted that she didn't have a lot to give at this point in her life, was feeling numb do to stress, and needed to back off although she really cares for me. I told her that I've been there, so I understand, and thanked her for honesty. No big deal. However, she continues to text, and will occasionally say she misses our connection, cuddling, etc... However, when I respond with sweet things, they get ignored. Very mixed signals. Long story short, I have things left unsaid that weigh on my heart but I know that saying them probly won't change anything. Do I just let her be or tell her how I feel?
rocketman122 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I think you should give the relationship more time to build. you dont want to intimidate and scare her away. like Elaine said in seinfeld: don't want John thinking that I'm hot and heavy if he's not hot and heavy. I'm trying to get a little squirrel to come over to me here. I don't want to make any big sudden movements. I'll frighten him away
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Sometimes the issue is that she isn't ready for anything more with you. For some, they never will be ready for more when it comes to you, but they value the friendship and what they do have, and would like to keep the status quo on that. The calculus will likely be very different for another guy who happens along. Time tends to be the great clarifier. Only you can decide whether the friendship, as it currently stands, is sufficient and meets your needs, and whether you find it prudent to stick around indefinitely to see if things ever progress with respect to you. Good luck.
rhitt Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Tell her. Talk to her about feeling numb from stress and what's causing it. Shes still texting you - good sign. I agree with rocketman. Give the relationship more time to build up. Could be her stress is what's making her back off. Be there for her.
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