cdt76 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I spent $10,000 to get custody of the kids because she wanted to move out of state. I lost of course because good fathers don't matter anymore because our society thinks mothers are the only ones that affect a childs life. So now, every month, I have to spend half of a pay check just to get them in to see me for A WEEKEND! A WEEKEND! Like 3 DAYS! Every month it's like a dagger in the base of my skull, producing more and more and more anger! I'm a single guy with a good job but I can't ever get ahead or save money because every month, I spend so much money just to see my kids for 2 F_ING DAYS a month! I hate her so much! Anyone have any suggestions or if you know of a way to see kids more who live in other states?
Treasa Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I don't have any advice, but good for you for staying active in your kids' lives. My father was abusive, and my mom got me away from him, but your situation is completely different. Unless there's a good reason to get kids away from a parent, I think it should be illegal to be able to move far away from the kids' other parent. At the very least, it sounds cruel. I'd want my kids to have access to both me and their father, even if it meant I wasn't as happy as I could personally be. If I ever have kids, they're coming first.
Author cdt76 Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 It is cruel. It was selfish and all for her own self interest. She didn't care about me at all during our marriage and she sure as hell didn't care leaving the state.
Gunny376 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 What is required is for you to get very creative and innovative. It is and would be a wise investment for you to call each and everyday if they are the age to receptitive to such. Its is paramount for you to make and maintain a CONTANT contact with them. The burden is upon you and you alone. Don't expect any help nor assistance from the XHEX! With that said, I would Google and inquire at book stores, (Books A Million, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, etc) about books and websites related to "Long Distance Parenting" which can give you ideas of things you can do, games you can play over the phone and thorugh the mail, over the internet if they're of the appropriate age. Long Distance Parenting - Google Search+ Take a Fool's Advice. I would seriously re-alligning your life and lifestyle for the sake of the children. If that means taking a job closer to where they are in the State that they're in ~ taking a less prestigious job ~ a lesser standard of living? I say go for it! Not only that I wouild strongly encourage it. Women will come and go in your life throughout the course of your life ~ your children are a different story. Just balancing out the amont of money that your spending now commuting from where you are to where they are could be money better invested by simply being in the same locality as they are ~ or at least in the proxmitiy of such. I would also encourgage you to educate yourself about Parential Alienation. MY STORY - Parental Alienation is Real and Parental alienation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia I strongly recommend you read the books "Second Chances" Second Chances: Men, Women and Children a Decade After Divorce: Sandra Blakeslee, Judith Wallerstein: 9780618446896: Amazon.com: Books And "Growing Up Divorce" Growing Up With Divorce: Helping Your Child Avoid Immediate and Later Emotional Problems: Neil Kalter: Amazon.com: Books
JD1977 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Just remember you have to "Love your kids more than you hate your ex-wife!" Regardless if she is doing you and them wrong. Any chance you could relocate? 1
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