lcug88 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 So me and my bf of 3 years broke up for a month after him "losing the spark" Cut a long story short we got back together he said it was the biggest mistake of his life and that he thought he was doing the right thing at the time. He called my dad and apologised, told me if we got back together he is going to marry me, that I'm the one he wants to be with forever.... And it's been 3 weeks since we got back together and things have been good!! Only one problem, while we were broken up he stayed at a girls house that had been his gf when he was 18, obviously slept with her. This was a week or so after we broke up... His now 26 and apparently got her number from his old work Fone. I know he was aloud to do what ever he wanted because he was single but the thing that hurts is that he has spoken to girls randomly when we have had fights in the past. He didn't have to tell me but he did, he could have lied and pretended it never happened. I just have this fear that this will all happen again. He has promised me it won't, he cried and begged me not to leave and not to hate him, said he wish he could go back and change what he did.... I believe that he regrets doing it, but as for the future n what will happen when things get tough or he gets bored, I don't know....
Leegh Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I would give him another chance, he does seem sincere. I wouldn't rush to the alter though, take your time, and reevaluate the relationship in a year or so.
OwlSoul Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 It's so nice you both got back together Yeah, I know the feeling when you're afraid of someone dumping you. After I got dumped twice, I carried this fear to my next relationship and screwed everything up. Just imagine! My latest ex broke up with me around the same time as the previous guy. Got back to me after the BU at the same time as the previous guy. And 'dumped' me again. So once you get focused on a bad scenario, it causes a danger of you behaving in a way that it will be repeated over and over again. So here is my valuable advise: You strongly need to ged rid of this feeling of fear. In my point of view it is not only dumper who is provoking the break-up, but the dumpee's behaviour as well. You might not notice it, it is happening on the subconscious level. This is the major thing to fix
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