thewrongonee Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Hello LS, hope you are all coping well! Jump start - When I first came into ls all i did was look up ways to get my ex back, any way possible. I was so tunnel visioned that i lost focus of my own reality and my goals. But i did get past it and moved on, dident even look at any social media, or even contacted my ex for 3 months. Furthermore, I made new friends and started going out more. Some of them are females to fill my emptiness of losing my ex to show my self i can still have a good time. I'm not going to lie, i thought i was over all of the drama that was caused by our break up, but secretly im not. For some reason i still feel lonely, i have lots of friends that i can just hang out with and talk to.. but still this damn feeling is killing me. I do not even have the drive to ask a girl out, because i m not ready. I'm not sure if i ever will be, i dont know what is wrong with me but this really sucks. Sure the feeling of being alone sucks, but what can I do? I don't know what is causing this, maybe it is a way of me saving my self of not getting hurt again.. i dont know. I just want it to end
JD1977 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 It sucks! But unfortunately there is no way to fast forward the healing process. You just have to weather the storm! You are off to a good start by focusing on yourself and spending time with friends. That's huge! As far as having the drive to ask a girl out, that will come back! When you meet someone who tickles your fancy, you will WANT to! One day at a time my friend... 1
Author thewrongonee Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 It sucks! But unfortunately there is no way to fast forward the healing process. You just have to weather the storm! You are off to a good start by focusing on yourself and spending time with friends. That's huge! As far as having the drive to ask a girl out, that will come back! When you meet someone who tickles your fancy, you will WANT to! One day at a time my friend... I hope that day comes soon. I just hate feeling like this, it usually happens when im alone at night. But one thing i can say is, I do not have any feelings for my ex anymore, i hardly even think about her. Which is why i do not understand why Im feeling like this.
AKisBaked Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 You will eventually gain back the confidence to ask a girl out and all that jazz that you were able to do before you became like this. Like was JD said, you can't fast forward the healing process, UNLESS you got some chick that was down to have "bounce back sex" but I don't think your the type of person to do that. Give it some time. Myself am going through this process currently but it's been awhile already for me.. I was miserable for months and even up until this day I still don't feel like asking anyone out on dates or whatever because I just dont feel like I am ready to trust someone. The best thing you can do is just go hang out with your buds. It really helps. Look at it this way, you dont have anyone to report to, no one is holding you down in whatever you do, who you talk to and who you do LOL. Your free. Maybe your the committed type. Well, so am I.. but you gotta have some fun with your life. That's the only way to get back on the horse. 1
Author thewrongonee Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 Look at it this way, you dont have anyone to report to, no one is holding you down in whatever you do, who you talk to and who you do LOL. Your free. Maybe your the committed type. Well, so am I.. but you gotta have some fun with your life. That's the only way to get back on the horse. Thank you for this!!
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