flash14 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 So I have been dating this girl for about 3 weeks now. For the most part I have wanted to keep things pretty casual and not jump into anything. We have mostly went on dates that included dinner and drinks, and a small kiss as the night ended. I have been telling myself to keep it casual because I recently got out of a very painful relationship a few months back. After tonight I realized I am really into her, and I know she is the same way for me. I really want to show her that I care for her. I feel like I have yet to show her that I am more interested in her then just wanting to "hang out" and really don't want to lose her. Unfortunately I am bad at these situations. My birthday is this week and it gave her a good reason to take me out, but I would rather show her that I really care for her. I just am not sure what to do. How can you take something from being just casual to more serious? Other then having dinner together, what is something I can do this week to show her that I am more interested in her then just someone to hang out with? Realize that I am in the midwest and winter has decided to hang around for a while. On another note I wanted to ask another question to the females out there. I am currently heading into my fourth year of medical school. This keeps me very busy, sometimes working close to 80 hours a week. I was curious as to what other people thought about this situation. I realize the stereotypes that exist about how parents want to their daughter to marry a doctor, even though I feel like that is a bad idea haha. I do not fit the stereotype of a doc, and would rather drive my 99 Toyota Tacoma then drive a Pourche. The problem is I have a hard time balancing school and relationships. I really try to put 100% in my relationships, but I have been told in the past that I put too much time at the hospital and it reflects in my relationships. I really try to make time for girls that I date, but usually it is not enough. How do girls view someone that truly loves their profession even though it may cut into time that they spend together? In my position there are nights where I get stuck working later then I expect as I don't punch a clock at 5 pm and sometimes get stuck until 9-10pm. For those dating someone in my position do you take canceling dates for work personally? I am looking for ways "make up" for the times I have to cancel a date because I get stuck at work with patients. I honestly love my profession, but really want to get married, have a family, and settle down at the same time. I am starting to really fall for this girl I am dating even though I tell myself to go slow. I do not want to make the mistakes I have made in the past so I came here for advice. I appreciate what you guys tell me! Sorry for the long post and any advice is appreciated!
creighton0123 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 You're really overthinking things. Just relax. As long as you are upfront and honest with this girl about how much you work and lay out what you expect and what she expects out of a relationship, you'll be fine. IMO, if you can meet up two to three times a week for an hour or two and spend a few more hours one of the days on a weekend, things will be fine. If you want a steady relationship with this girl, asking her if she's interested after three weeks of casual dating is hardly "rushing into things". That's a reasonable amount of time.
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