Swansea Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 In a college class of mine theres a girl i want to ask out for lunch or something. She seems introverted, shy, like shes in an island of her own most of time time, ( exactly like me) so that makes me feel secure that she may be like me and not socially demanding.. So i am intrigued to ask her out, despite being strangers, theres no real way i can get to know her before hand as i only see her twice a week, 50 mins a day, and she sits across the class, so a straight up asking out is only way i see this works. Now considering some people go to parties, or even to public places and tend to ask people out for dates, i dont see why a nice, well done, request from me, should not be tried, specially when there are no alternatives and even if she says no i dont lose much. So the question for me is, when should i do it? College semester ends in 1 month, if i ask her out now and she says no i will have to go to class about 8 more times, and feel an awkward vibe if i let it get to me, BUT i have the ability to ask her out to go somewhere ON CAMPUS which i feel is less risky than asking her out somewhere outside, considering we are strangers. or should i wait till the end so that if she says no, thats the end of that? Although i feel id either have to wait after vacation ( trips) or go somewhere a week before the trip starts...( fear kind of pushes me to want to do this around this time). ( I also saw her Facebook which is apparently active because it says she added 2 friends in the last month, but only has 20 overall despite having facebook for apparently a year) so some deductive research if it can be trusted, gives me the idea of her being introverted..
mortensorchid Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Guy, act now or you will never see this gal again. If you don't you will never know what may have been. Whether or not you have a good time and continue on is not the issue, it's not waffling and getting over your introverted nature and going for what you want. If not, you will regret it.
Author Swansea Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 Guy, act now or you will never see this gal again. If you don't you will never know what may have been. Whether or not you have a good time and continue on is not the issue, it's not waffling and getting over your introverted nature and going for what you want. If not, you will regret it. Ok, but i have one thing that nudges at me everytime.. I seem to be able to think about whats the right thing to do, but i might get nervous or tight when trying to do something. Usually after i do some public speaking in one of my classes i feel much more confident, and a rush of adrenaline, where i feel i can be as social and charming as a george clooney, but then i drop... I wish there were someways i could pump my self up a bit when i ask the question, because when i think of doing it, i dont want to see my self choking up lol.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Abundance mentality, my man. She's just one girl. No worries. If it was earlier in the semester, I would just say talk to her and get to know her a bit before asking her out. But it's pretty much crunchtime at this point so just man-up and do it.
Author Swansea Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 Abundance mentality, my man. She's just one girl. No worries. If it was earlier in the semester, I would just say talk to her and get to know her a bit before asking her out. But it's pretty much crunchtime at this point so just man-up and do it. Thats a good refreshing way of looking at it, even if i fail, good tip. Hopefully i ask her out either tuesday or thursday then, i want to feel as cool as i can, because there is no reason to be so nervous as i may feel sometimes.. Easier said than done but ill get there.
rhitt Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Guy, act now or you will never see this gal again. If you don't you will never know what may have been. Whether or not you have a good time and continue on is not the issue, it's not waffling and getting over your introverted nature and going for what you want. If not, you will regret it. Agreed. There's really no need to wait.
rhitt Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Thats a good refreshing way of looking at it, even if i fail, good tip. Hopefully i ask her out either tuesday or thursday then, i want to feel as cool as i can, because there is no reason to be so nervous as i may feel sometimes.. Easier said than done but ill get there. You have nothing to lose. Just do it. Good luck.
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