Getting her back?

[thisonequestion]

I decided to breakup with my girlfriend because she liked to smoke weed once in a while. She said she tried not to and seldom did smoke, but it still annoyed me.

 

About a week ago I was fed up and told it was over. I said I did not believe she could ever stop or I could ever be more sympathetic. As days went by, I realized I should have stuck around because I had not even fell "out of love" to begin with. I had let some idea of a perfect partner ruin the whole thing. She is the only girl I ever had true feelings for.

 

I eventually said I was sorry and asked about the eventuality of getting back together. That was done over the phone as she did not want us to meet in person. She said she did not want to communicate for a whole month because I had caused her too much trouble. She noted that getting dumped was not something she thought she could forgive. It sounded as though she just did not want to hear about me anymore. I don't think waiting one month is going to do any good. I do not feel that the relationship did fulfill its potential.

 

This thread is not about whether or not weed is good.

 

What should I do?

 

*We're both in our early 20s.

Edited April 14, 2013 by thisonequestion

[lynn1954]

Absolutely give her the full month of time she asked for. I can't stress this strongly enough: give her the time she asked for.

 

After a month, start from square one and see how both of you feel. If you had a strong, loving relationship before then you will be able to discuss, forgive and forget the weed argument and be together again.

 

If you had a problem with your relatinship (maybe you weren't aware of the problem) then the weed argument merely gave her an opportunity to get some space.

 

If you're meant to be together, the month apart will be good for you.

 

If your relationship has a crack, you'll both have a chance to handle that after the month.

[thisonequestion]

Thank you. It makes sense, for the most part. I feel a little more at ease. I guess I fear we'll lose the connection we had or that she'll meet someone new. That could happen to both of us...