steveT95 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Not sure if this thread is in the right place. I've got myself in a stupid dilemma. Signed up to the ask.fm site a few weeks back. For those who don't know, it is a site where people can ask you questions anonymously. The ex hates this site and didn't like that I joined it shortly after the break up. Today someone was asking me about whether I was in a relationship and was saying that I was good looking. They started talking about the ex and asking if I still wanted to be with her. I said no and that I wasn't willing to say anything else so publicly. They said she seems to of moved on quick, I said I agreed, because that is what it feels like and it really hurts. So the ex must have been stalking the page and started calling, I ignored them, then she text saying I was been spiteful and 'how would I feel I was in her shoes' I ignored that too because she never emphasises with me when she is in the wrong, so how dare her say that to. Anyways, now I'm in a bit of a muddle and don't know what to do, please help. Three days no contact too. (I know, this is a very childish situation)
Minneloa Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Hi Steve, Nothing to do but stay NC & ignore her. I know it's hard to grasp at first, but your ex doesn't have a say about what you do anymore. Plus, it was an anonymous Internet site, correct? It's not like you took out a full-page in the Times detailing her flaws. Sending good thoughts. M. 2
Author steveT95 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Thanks, minneloa. The most I did was agree that she had moved on fast. Others have talked about her on my page anonymously and I have either deleted it, disagreed with them or told them it was unfair. She just wrote a bitchy facebook status (which I liked because I wanted to play *******.) She didn't send anymore texts so she can't be that bothered about it. I have nothing nice to say to her so won't say anything.
Minneloa Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Good for you for ignoring her texts. Now, your next step is to block her on Facebook! Simply put, you don't need her noise and drama. The less you engage with her in any way, the more quickly you will heal. Hang tough! M.
Author steveT95 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 I have deleted her account, but ended up looking at it. I should block her on my phone but haven't yet. I really do feel like I am moving on. I am controlling my anger towards her and feel ready to have a fresh start. I have surprised myself at how well I am coping, even if I still am a miserable old git! 1
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