DelusionalOne Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I know you do. I totally understand what you are feeling. Ask yourself if answering him will change anything. What is best for you? What is best for him? Once you answer the questions.... you will know what to do next.
Author forgetmenot75 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 Other two breakups I run to him, desperately. This time though I can't. Not right now, and I don't know why. Maybe I'm not prepared. My hearth pumped so fast when I saw his text I almost die. But I don't want to feel vulnerable again though. I don't want to be in that position again. This is hurting so much. I wish I knew what to do. I don't think he'll contact me ever again, this was so unusual I'm surprised he did. There won't be a second text for sure. I need to make a decision, and it's been so difficult so far.
DelusionalOne Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 If he doesn't text you again, if he gives up that easily, then you know you made the right decision by not responding. Holy crap... I know that feeling you are talking about and I am thankful that I don't have to experience it anymore. The choice is up to you whether this is the last time you will feel like this... Or just one of many to come. 1
ThatJustHappened Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Many people that fall into bad relationships do so because they want to be loved. Wanting to be loved is pathological and likely reflects childhood issues. A stable adult seeks a mate to complement his or her already completely fulfilled life. Seeking a mate to love you and make you happy does not work very well. Wanting to be loved is different from needing to be in a relationship. I want the people I love to love me back..that doesn't make me crazy.
Author forgetmenot75 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 Well, I haven't replied, and I don't think I'll do. This has been a tough day for me. I don't want to hurt him, he's such a nice guy, despite that he's a womanizer. He has some emotional issues though, I can't handle them anymore, it's too much. I think he's my soul mate, I love him with all my hearth, and I'm broken right now. I miss him like hell, but I just can't text him. It's been 8 painful days. Some things he's said/did to me (just to reaffirm I'm doing the right thing) -He told me to look for another man so I could be happy (I told him I needed only him to be happy, he didnt understand) -He didn't allow me to stay overnight with him. He freaked out: "I dont want anybody here, I'm not ready for this kind of relationship" -He never looked for me. -I ask him to broke with me so I could move on, he did it without even thinking: "It was nice to meeting you, thank you for all the laughs, hugs, take care and be safe" That his words -Last time I saw him he was so cold after sex, he didn't even look at me. -He told me he will never fall for me as I'm married. -He's secretly in love with an older woman (unrequited love) -He once called me "baby" and regretted it. I asked him I liked him calling me baby, but he never called me again. -He never stopped visiting online dating sites ugh. this sucks
ThatJustHappened Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 He sounds horrible and you sound super needy. That's a bad combination. Good choice not contacting him back. Next step is blocking him.
DelusionalOne Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Well, I haven't replied, and I don't think I'll do. This has been a tough day for me. I don't want to hurt him, he's such a nice guy, despite that he's a womanizer. He has some emotional issues though, I can't handle them anymore, it's too much. I think he's my soul mate, I love him with all my hearth, and I'm broken right now. I miss him like hell, but I just can't text him. It's been 8 painful days. Some things he's said/did to me (just to reaffirm I'm doing the right thing) -He told me to look for another man so I could be happy (I told him I needed only him to be happy, he didnt understand) -He didn't allow me to stay overnight with him. He freaked out: "I dont want anybody here, I'm not ready for this kind of relationship" -He never looked for me. -I ask him to broke with me so I could move on, he did it without even thinking: "It was nice to meeting you, thank you for all the laughs, hugs, take care and be safe" That his words -Last time I saw him he was so cold after sex, he didn't even look at me. -He told me he will never fall for me as I'm married. -He's secretly in love with an older woman (unrequited love) -He once called me "baby" and regretted it. I asked him I liked him calling me baby, but he never called me again. -He never stopped visiting online dating sites ugh. this sucks After reading this..... He's looking for validation. He wants to see if he still has you wrapped around his finger. RUN...do not walk... to the nearest exit. Please do not respond. He'll have a hell of a lot more respect for your if you don't go running to him. (as if his respect should mean anything at this point!)
Author forgetmenot75 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 Well, what can I say. He sounds horrible indeed when I re-read what I wrote. He gave me "love" with a dropper, or didn't give me love at all. To be with him I accepted everything: that he didn't love me, that he was seeking other women on the internet meanwhile, that he was in love with that older woman, that he never said a kind word to me, that he never looked at me in the eyes... I was needy, I needed his love, I wanted him to love above all things. I never got an emphatic word. Oh: He once denied meeting me because he said he had to do laundry. It was a Sunday at 10 pm
Author forgetmenot75 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 It's a new day today and I didn't reply. Thank you all for opening my eyes yesterday. I feel like something broke inside me yesterday, the crazy attachment I felt for him.
DelusionalOne Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 . Yeah! Good for you!!! Those feelings are going to come and go but now you KNOW you CAN do it!
Author forgetmenot75 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 OMG, I need someone who open my eyes, please, and continue telling me to stay strong. I'm feeling really sad right now. just not having him makes me feel extremely low. Ugh I haven't replied him, I'm not gonna do it, but I'm just feeling in hell right now. It's almost a physical sensation, cold turkey at its best. It's like my body and my brain are desperately looking for him, like a drug addict.
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