Dropped Him off at the airport earlier

[sweetkiwi]

Hello ladies and gentlemen of the LDR section. I had a wonderful 6 days with my sweetie and this morning it had to end when he left back to the UK. I am so sad. Had to force myself to seem okay at lunch with my family. Been in bed the rest of the day. I talked to him and he's okay but sad as well. This week just fueled our desire to live together even more.

 

I loved waking up with him and cooking breakfast then planning our days together. It all felt so natural!!! And fun!!! And I am just holding onto those memories and telling myself tomorrow I'll need to buck up and get back to normal. That its not the end of the world.

 

It's just so hard how do y'all do it!!???

[miss_jaclynrae]

Hello ladies and gentlemen of the LDR section. I had a wonderful 6 days with my sweetie and this morning it had to end when he left back to the UK. I am so sad. Had to force myself to seem okay at lunch with my family. Been in bed the rest of the day. I talked to him and he's okay but sad as well. This week just fueled our desire to live together even more.

 

I loved waking up with him and cooking breakfast then planning our days together. It all felt so natural!!! And fun!!! And I am just holding onto those memories and telling myself tomorrow I'll need to buck up and get back to normal. That its not the end of the world.

 

It's just so hard how do y'all do it!!???

 

It sucks. I know it is different but when I was married he was in the military, so we also had to go months without seeing eachother.

 

 

You sort of learn to adjust, the great thing is that it was a wonderful time to focus on myself. STAY BUSY.

Also, give yourself the time to grieve, it is hard missing your significant other no matter what the circumstances, cry all day if you must, get it out of your system, it helps.

 

I am going to be serparated from my man for a year coming up in august... I am dreading it.

[sweetkiwi]

Yes my little sister's husband was just away for a year since he's in the military as well.

 

I have been crying. I just miss him terribly already. Not sure when he has time to come back either. It's lighting a fire under my bum to get legal here so I can stay up to three months with him in the UK too. And he's considering getting a menial job just so he can come more often.

 

First date in Rome was a huge plus!!! And first kiss at the Trevi fountain!!!!

 

I am thinking about ways to keep myself busy already. One includes exercising. Good hobby to pick up. And the weather is so wonderful right now too. Soon it'll be beach season then my hobby will be swimming and tanning

[Pyro]

Not an easy thing to deal with.

 

Are there any plans for one of you two to move to be with the other?

 

Having an exit plan made things easier in my situation.

[cerridwen]

Hello ladies and gentlemen of the LDR section. I had a wonderful 6 days with my sweetie and this morning it had to end when he left back to the UK. I am so sad. Had to force myself to seem okay at lunch with my family. Been in bed the rest of the day. I talked to him and he's okay but sad as well. This week just fueled our desire to live together even more.

 

I loved waking up with him and cooking breakfast then planning our days together. It all felt so natural!!! And fun!!! And I am just holding onto those memories and telling myself tomorrow I'll need to buck up and get back to normal. That its not the end of the world.

 

It's just so hard how do y'all do it!!???

 

Ugh, this is the rough part.

The days after separating just blow.

 

What helps:

 

Start planning for the next visit.

I read that you're not sure exactly when it will be

but

plan for his return anyway because it's GOING to happen.

 

Think about where you will go next time;

what you'll cook ();

get an exercise plan going to be in even MORE fabulous shape;

do research of day or overnight trips in the area.

 

Also focus on how you can keep building the relationship in creative ways during the separation.

 

 

• Get some cute stationary and write him love letters.
  

 

• Shop for thoughtful knickknacks you can send through the mail.
  

 

• If you haven't already, install WhatsApp on your phone and send voice messages and videos.
  

 

• If living together is likely, start taking inventory of what could be improved & more pleasurable. New plush towels? More soft sheets? A tray for breakfast in bed? Hold off buying but the point is to concentrate on what YOU'LL HAVE, not WHAT IS MISSING at the mo. Shifting to the future can really help the present.
  

I'm glad you had fun.

 

I knew you would!

Edited April 14, 2013 by cerridwen

[Anela]

I was thinking of you, kiwi. So glad you had fun!

[sweetkiwi]

Not an easy thing to deal with.

 

Are there any plans for one of you two to move to be with the other?

 

Having an exit plan made things easier in my situation.

 

Yes there have been lots of plans but things are so up in the air it's very difficult. In three weeks he finds out if he gets money for his PhD and if THAT happens (itwillitwillitwill) then I can go to be with him for three whole months. But only if I get legal here in Italy.

 

We'll be doing research this week to figure out what the best plan of action is. He's certainly the more level headed one because I am tripping out!!!!! Haven't eaten today

 

We were joking and said in our next lives we hope to be born closer to eachother

[Els]

It IS really hard. Don't be down on yourself. When I was in a LDR I spent most of the next day running around like a madwoman to keep depressing thoughts out of my head. Chocolate helps, too.

 

I'm sure you feel better now that he has replied, though.

[sweetkiwi]

It IS really hard. Don't be down on yourself. When I was in a LDR I spent most of the next day running around like a madwoman to keep depressing thoughts out of my head. Chocolate helps, too.

 

I'm sure you feel better now that he has replied, though.

 

Not sure what you mean about him replying E. He's always texting me. One of us always wakes up to a text from the other, and he always manages to rush home to eat his lunch infront of the computer to talk to me.

 

He's very attentive. Just a major sweetie. I am such a lucky girl!!!!!

[Pyro]

Yes there have been lots of plans but things are so up in the air it's very difficult. In three weeks he finds out if he gets money for his PhD and if THAT happens (itwillitwillitwill) then I can go to be with him for three whole months. But only if I get legal here in Italy.

 

We'll be doing research this week to figure out what the best plan of action is. He's certainly the more level headed one because I am tripping out!!!!! Haven't eaten today

 

We were joking and said in our next lives we hope to be born closer to eachother

 

Keep in constant (by your definition) contact with each other until then. Communication is key. I personally enjoyed using Skype.

[sweetkiwi]

Keep in constant (by your definition) contact with each other until then. Communication is key. I personally enjoyed using Skype.

 

Skype is awesome. But using it on my phone is NOT. It's patchy and it freezes up at the WORST moments. I try to give him breaks from our constant communication since he's a busy bee and I am really not. He encourages me to have a social life as well.

 

But honestly if I could I would probably constantly be on Skype or the phone.

[Pyro]

Skype is awesome. But using it on my phone is NOT. It's patchy and it freezes up at the WORST moments. I try to give him breaks from our constant communication since he's a busy bee and I am really not. He encourages me to have a social life as well.

 

But honestly if I could I would probably constantly be on Skype or the phone.

 

I worked nights at the time and due to the time difference we matched up perfectly, so there was always time for Skype at home.

 

Because of working nights my social life went away so my life turned into sleep, LS, and Skype.

[sweetkiwi]

Sounds like my life now. Except without work. I really need hobbies. Besides breaking my face on stuff.