knopfler1 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 When you want reconciliation with an ex that dumped you is Nc, LC or NIC the way to go?. Share your experiences please
Amelie1980 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Not NC. i did it and it's just created a.void. I don't.know.how to.get.back in touch now.
na49 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Not NC. i did it and it's just created a.void. I don't.know.how to.get.back in touch now. Yes you do. You call him. Text him. Email him. Show up at his house. NC didn't create a void. You did. If you want to contact him, you can contact him. Nothing is stopping you but yourself. The problem is that the contact would only hurt you more because you're emotional. That's not NC's fault though. I hate how people feel like NC will bring their ex back. but think of it this way. Will they miss you if they are hearing from you every now and then? No. Will they miss you if they NEVER hear from you and have no clue what you're up to. Maybe.
Amelie1980 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Yes you do. You call him. Text him. Email him. Show up at his house. NC didn't create a void. You did. If you want to contact him, you can contact him. Nothing is stopping you but yourself. The problem is that the contact would only hurt you more because you're emotional. That's not NC's fault though. I hate how people feel like NC will bring their ex back. but think of it this way. Will they miss you if they are hearing from you every now and then? No. Will they miss you if they NEVER hear from you and have no clue what you're up to. Maybe. I never thought NC would bring him back. I did it as a I was too fragile to stay in touch.
TaraMaiden Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 When you want reconciliation with an ex that dumped you is Nc, LC or NIC the way to go?. Share your experiences please None of the above are designed, or should ever be used, as a way of getting the ex- back. That's not what they're for. NC is never a tool for reconciliation, and if they dumped you, you don't get to make that choice. They do.
Tmo2 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 (edited) None of the above are designed, or should ever be used, as a way of getting the ex- back. That's not what they're for. NC is never a tool for reconciliation, and if they dumped you, you don't get to make that choice. They do. I agree with TMaiden... Once you get yourself together and continue to move on you will understand and accept things as they are ... (Wtf is NIC btw?) If you are still struggling and wondering about your ex (while in no-contact) after 4 months post breakup and have been working hard on getting your life together then just ****ing contact the person and catch up (unless there was abuse or cheating)... Catching up with someone is ok and doesn't engage in anything, you can always cease contact if you freak out and have a bad experience. . Whatever your ex does should cease to affect you. You must be yourself and let go, give yourself time. The best tactic is wanting to be with someone who loves you for you. Btw I am 6 months post breakup and in low contact with my ex. I initiated contact once with her by phone and since then she has been regularly initiating by email, I only reply. Small talk has made me understand that a reconciliation is not possible, not for now at least. Just knowing yourself, what you want and then hearing what you ex wants (goals, etc.) will show you if there is an opportunity for reconciliation or not. Either way, you should do what is best for you. An ex should remain an ex if your aspirations don't align + if you need to push to make things work. It should be natural and easygoing... The ex should want to get back with you, simple. Edited April 14, 2013 by Tmo2 The best tactic is wanting someone who loves you for you.
Gruesome Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I think no contact has always worked best for me - she's always gotten back in touch with me. What is the old saying "Distance makes the heart grow fonder"
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