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Hi everyone - this is my first post.

After reading through many of the threads on here I think I am pretty lucky in that my ex and I get on pretty well and neither of us - so far - is being unreasonable. Here is the situation:

 

  • I live in Ontario, Canada
  • There are two children, ages 5 and 10
  • Separation occurred in April 2012
  • Custody is shared, fluid and entirely amicable and child-related costs are shared
  • We do not have a legal separation agreement or parenting plan in place although finances have been separated
  • My ex met his new girlfriend in the summer of 2012 and plans to move in with her (hasn't confirmed when he will do this but my assumption is that it is fairly imminent)

The move in with the girlfriend concerns me for a number of reasons - obviously - but primarily because we have nothing agreed in writing between us. I am now rushing through a parenting plan and am stuck on "involvement of others" (i.e. new partners). Any advice for me here? I want to be reasonable but not stupid. Any other thoughts on his plan to move in with her? He won't tell me when he plans to do this either, which I think is unfair, he says it means I'm trying to control him. Thoughts? Advice?

 

I'm sure that I will have more questions as I work through things but anything that anyone has to share on this front would be appreciated.

 

thanks!

Ursula

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I'm a bit confused. What are your concerns exactly? You said you guys get along and agree on things. Why will it be different when he moves in with his GF?

 

A separation agreement is always a good idea, but why doesn't someone just file for divorce?

 

As long as he takes good care of the children, he doesn't have to tell you what he's doing with the new GF. I don't think he's being unfair at all.

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