INTJ Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I left him after dating for 3 months because he was having a hard time choosing between me and Ex. He told me this 2 Weeks ago. I told him to choose her and to give it his all in that relationship. That way if it doesn't work that time, he won't have the what ifs. He said he was hurt and I didn't give him an opportunity to choose. I miss him dearly. Should I contact him or just let things be? If yes, how long should I wait? Should I wait for him to contact me (it's been 4 days)? If he does contact me, what should I say? I hate having such strong feelings for a person who is emotionally unavailable. SMH.
Amelie1980 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Stay NC. If he wants to come back he will. But do you want to be with someone who couldn't decide between you and his ex? 1
TaraMaiden Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 No Contact is No Contact, no matter who 'applied' it. In a way, by being indecisive, he was keeping you on the back-burner and using you as an option. This way, you know where you stand. You may have ended it, but he put you in the invidious position of having to do so. Ergo, you could call it a mutual decision. So staying NC is by far the best choice. And there IS no Time Limit. This - is IT.
ThorntonMelon Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 A guy who wants to be with you will NEVER let you go to sleep one night wondering if he wants to be with you.
Noma Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 A guy who wants to be with you will NEVER let you go to sleep one night wondering if he wants to be with you. That is BS. There are many reasons. You need to decide for yourself. You know him and we don't. 1
crustyjojo Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I left him after dating for 3 months because he was having a hard time choosing between me and Ex. He told me this 2 Weeks ago. I told him to choose her and to give it his all in that relationship. That way if it doesn't work that time, he won't have the what ifs. He said he was hurt and I didn't give him an opportunity to choose. I miss him dearly. Should I contact him or just let things be? If yes, how long should I wait? Should I wait for him to contact me (it's been 4 days)? If he does contact me, what should I say? I hate having such strong feelings for a person who is emotionally unavailable. SMH. INTJ - that was a very brave move on your part and I think the right way to go. If you are supposed to be together you will be but he will have got to have got past his ex. I am in a not disimilar situation to you, but he instigated it due to unresolved feelngs. I have let him go as I know that if there is/was ever a future for us, he has to find out or let go of the past himself. 1
crederer Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 He's upset because you didn't give him time to choose? How are you supposed to feel when you give him time, and he chooses the other person? Jesus.
LumberJack Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 A guy who wants to be with you will NEVER let you go to sleep one night wondering if he wants to be with you. That's just not true.
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