Philosopher Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Lets say you have a date arranged for after work one evening. However during the morning you get dumped with loads of new work with a tight deadline. To cap it off your great rival gets the promotion that you really wanted. By lunchtime you really are not in a great mood to go on the date that evening. Should you in this situation cancel the date and rearrange for day when you will hopefully be in a better mood or should you just stick with it and go ahead with the date as planned. Personally I can see both sides to the argument. I think you need to make the best impression as possible on date so therefore the date should be rearranged. However if you rearrange it is frustrating and annoying for your date and they may think you are not that interested.
Buttercup84 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I would go. It might be the best date of your life and it might cheer you up a lot. But do not go on about work just have fun 3
MsSmurf Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I would not go. I would call right away and just explain that an urgent project has been dumped on my lap and it was looking like I would need to stay late. I would apologize, reiterate that I really wanted to get together, and then suggest another night. There is nothing worse than going out on a date with someone who is in a sour mood. The other person has no idea whats going on and if you start talking about it then you don't really give a great impression.
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I keep my commitments. I'm a grownup and more than capable of getting through a bad day without having to kick the dog or growl through dinner. I value reliability and responsibility, so while I'll be perfectly pleasant and understanding about the reschedule, you've made it crystal clear that we would never be a match. That's OK. Millions more to consider for both of us. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 When you cancel early dates, it looks REALLY bad... 2
Star Gazer Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 If the work deadline was really tight, as in the next day, I would cancel and explain fully and suggest an alternative day. If the work deadline was workable, I would still go.
tuxedo cat Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I would also consider your overall pattern. If you've seen this person a few times and been reliable, I don't think rescheduling once is that terrible. But if you've already done it once in a short span of time, you risk putting them off for good.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Just go, man. Learning how to separate yourself from one situation to handle a totally unrelated one is an important life skill.
creighton0123 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Just go, man. Learning how to separate yourself from one situation to handle a totally unrelated one is an important life skill. This. I recently had to reschedule a first date with someone because I got pulled into work. Made me feel like crap. Anyhow, if you must reschedule, here's my advice: 1. Call. Don't text. 2. Don't give a reason. There's no need to give a reason. 3. Have two suggested dates to reschedule in mind. Don't get a raincheck. Reschedule it then and there so the other person knows you're solidly interested. 4. Do it at least 8 hours before the date. That way, the other person can make other plans for that evening if they want to.
Estate Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Lets say you have a date arranged for after work one evening. However during the morning you get dumped with loads of new work with a tight deadline. To cap it off your great rival gets the promotion that you really wanted. By lunchtime you really are not in a great mood to go on the date that evening. Should you in this situation cancel the date and rearrange for day when you will hopefully be in a better mood or should you just stick with it and go ahead with the date as planned. Personally I can see both sides to the argument. I think you need to make the best impression as possible on date so therefore the date should be rearranged. However if you rearrange it is frustrating and annoying for your date and they may think you are not that interested. It's more respectful to go and use it as motivation to have a good time. Ignore the bad stuff that day and be happy you are getting to spend the evening with a nice girl. If you can't be in a good mood and will make the date suck then don't put her through that, but don't expect a 2nd chance either... the "work" excuse can be real or a blow off so a lot of people won't give it a 2nd chance.
PogoStick Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Hell I'd use it as fodder for the date. Challenge her to help you relax and see how she handles it. Give her a chance to shine. 1
Feelin Frisky Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Depends if it's a first and to some degree if you know this person (if you really don't want to go--as who knows the date could be a disaster on top of a disaster). If you're a positive person otherwise instead of a brooding time bomb, go on the date. I can't see going to a movie but dancing or a concert are much more engaging. Say if you know thie person and you've ask them to date, there is room to explain and not have it look like you're flaking. If your rival got a promotion you were after, that's a done deal so why sulk?. Try to get over it--especially if you think you'll have some lively company--and don't burden them with hard knocks you can't undo.
Tacoma360 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Lets say you have a date arranged for after work one evening. However during the morning you get dumped with loads of new work with a tight deadline. To cap it off your great rival gets the promotion that you really wanted. By lunchtime you really are not in a great mood to go on the date that evening. Should you in this situation cancel the date and rearrange for day when you will hopefully be in a better mood or should you just stick with it and go ahead with the date as planned. Personally I can see both sides to the argument. I think you need to make the best impression as possible on date so therefore the date should be rearranged. However if you rearrange it is frustrating and annoying for your date and they may think you are not that interested. GO Argument: so hard day at work, why bring it to the date. If it was me I would go. You would never know maybe the person might actually make the day right and you would totally miss that opportunity if you decide not to go "you miss 100% the opportunities you did not take" or it could be a chance to redeem yourself in your own way after all the bad things that happened (a form of self assurance) either ways, it would be all about your attitude towards the problem. NOT GO argument: if its the first date, or even if its not, being honest is the best way to go. You don't feel the best of sorts and is not in the mood to take that effort to show off to your date(admit it we want to show off during our dates ladies and gents all the same) just let the person know. However they interpret it is their problem not yours. If they cannot or simply refuse to understand your situation just let them go they are not the only fish in the sea it's not the end of the world. Frustrating and annoying as it maybe, some things you cannot help and things does not always go your way. There will always be a next time.
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