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irc333 Established Member

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I see a lot of posts here about how a man should be able to "Keep a woman's interest" or "build interest" in fact I've even seen dating profiles of women that say, "Must be able to keep my interest" or "must not be boring", when in fact it's a character flaw on their part that they simply bore too easily.

 

 

OF course "boring" is indeed left up to the interpretation of the person being entertained.

 

So, unlike children...and I'm sure men suffer...well...let's just say SOCIETY, in general is mostly composed of easily unsatisfied or an impulsive lot.

 

Being that we live in an electronic age where people are glued to their texting devices...it does make sense.

 

So I kind of laugh when PUA (pick-up artists) in order to accommodate some of the single women in today's society, that we are doing something wrong to get AND KEEP a woman's interest going as long as possible.

 

Also, anyone find it quite presumptuous when someone should surmise that the person they date must keep them "entertained"?

Mr_Flay Established Member

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As long as she's ready to reciprocate some entertainment by being a good conversationalist, I see nothing wrong in her wanting to be entertained. After all, who would want to date a boring person? The problem is only with passive people who expect to be entertained, but give little in return. I've seen such girls on OLD before: they message me first, but then they reply to my messages with short one-liners that don't offer the possibility to expand the topic. First I make sure their short message isn't because of shyness, then I give up on them. I'm not on a job interview; a conversation takes at least two people to work.

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grkBoy Established Member

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I usually equate "keep me interested" or "keep me entertained" as the person has no real life other than drinking/partying and having sex. Every woman I've met who has a "keep me interested" attitude usually only has to offer good looks and bedroom skills.

 

The women who aren't all "keep me entertained" usually have a brain and a life...much better things to offer.

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Star Gazer Established Member

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All of your threads basically point out flaws in women. This is just yet another example.

 

I wonder when you'll ever turn your focus inward, to what you have to offer.

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miss_jaclynrae Established Member

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So wanting to be with someone who entertains you is now a character flaw?

 

 

 

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HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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I see a lot of posts here about how a man should be able to "Keep a woman's interest" or "build interest" in fact I've even seen dating profiles of women that say, "Must be able to keep my interest" or "must not be boring", when in fact it's a character flaw on their part that they simply bore too easily.

 

 

OF course "boring" is indeed left up to the interpretation of the person being entertained.

 

So, unlike children...and I'm sure men suffer...well...let's just say SOCIETY, in general is mostly composed of easily unsatisfied or an impulsive lot.

 

Being that we live in an electronic age where people are glued to their texting devices...it does make sense.

 

So I kind of laugh when PUA (pick-up artists) in order to accommodate some of the single women in today's society, that we are doing something wrong to get AND KEEP a woman's interest going as long as possible.

 

Also, anyone find it quite presumptuous when someone should surmise that the person they date must keep them "entertained"?

 

It's all entitlement. That's the nature of our society and it goes both ways.

 

Guys: I deserve a hot girl without putting in the effort to get and keep them.

 

Girls: I deserve to be entertained constantly and the guy has to be at my beck and call or I'll stray.

 

The few people that don't have entitlement issues (and there are some on here) are the ones that are the happiest and most successful in dating.

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reaver Established Member

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Boring is very subjective. Ive had people call me boring and others say I need to be more boring. Sometimes its a matter of compatibility.

 

I dont expect a guy to entertain me. Id like him to not be boring however. There is a difference. If a guy has a good personality I wont need him to take me to entertaining places and such. Ive had people tell me I dont need to drink at all due to my personality- I like traits like that in a guy.

 

I do find it ironic you are complaining about this when alot of your posts convey this general entitlement to hot women however. If you are going to go for the hottest of hot women, you will have to put in more work, sorry.

miss_jaclynrae Established Member

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Wait, so correct me if I am wrong... are you saying that because I want a man who is funny, witty, a great conversationalist, and an overall great person to spend my time with means I feel entitled?

 

 

Doesn't everyone want that ****?

Who wants to end up with someone who bores them?!

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I must feel SUPER entitled then, because I would never date someone who I couldn't enjoy my time with. When women say "interest me" or "entertain me" it is because they want someone with a similar personality type. You may bore one person but completely entertain another.

 

 

They aren't saying put on a jester hat and preform tricks for them all day. :laugh:

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HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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Boring is very subjective. Ive had people call me boring and others say I need to be more boring. Sometimes its a matter of compatibility.

 

I dont expect a guy to entertain me. Id like him to not be boring however. There is a difference. If a guy has a good personality I wont need him to take me to entertaining places and such. Ive had people tell me I dont need to drink at all due to my personality- I like traits like that in a guy.

 

I do find it ironic you are complaining about this when alot of your posts convey this general entitlement to hot women however. If you are going to go for the hottest of hot women, you will have to put in more work, sorry.

 

Yeah, that's how I am. Alcohol actually hurts me. If I drink more than a beer or 2, I'm almost guaranteed an unsuccessful night with women.

Star Gazer Established Member

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When women say "interest me" or "entertain me" it is because they want someone with a similar personality type.

 

I think it goes without saying though, right?

 

Typically, it's true that a woman who actually says "entertain me" or "don't bore me" is high maintenance and has some entitlement issues.

HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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Wait, so correct me if I am wrong... are you saying that because I want a man who is funny, witty, a great conversationalist, and an overall great person to spend my time with means I feel entitled?

 

 

Doesn't everyone want that ****?

Who wants to end up with someone who bores them?!

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I must feel SUPER entitled then, because I would never date someone who I couldn't enjoy my time with. When women say "interest me" or "entertain me" it is because they want someone with a similar personality type. You may bore one person but completely entertain another.

 

 

They aren't saying put on a jester hat and preform tricks for them all day. :laugh:

 

I think you're responding to me since OP didn't mention entitlement.

 

Did you actually read my post....or did you just stop at "entitlement"? I don't think I could respond with a better answer than what I've already provided.

miss_jaclynrae Established Member

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I think it goes without saying though, right?

 

Typically, it's true that a woman who actually says "entertain me" or "don't bore me" is high maintenance and has some entitlement issues.

 

I had on my OKC profile in message me if:

"you are a good conversationalist"

 

 

People just listing what they want, I don't think it goes much deeper than that. :laugh:

miss_jaclynrae Established Member

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I think you're responding to me since OP didn't mention entitlement.

 

Did you actually read my post....or did you just stop at "entitlement"? I don't think I could respond with a better answer than what I've already provided.

 

I read yours, it is to you too but moreso to OP.

 

 

I don't think saying must be entertaining, or keep my interest means they expect a man to be at their beck and call. I don't see that at all.

Star Gazer Established Member

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I read yours, it is to you too but moreso to OP.

 

 

I don't think saying must be entertaining, or keep my interest means they expect a man to be at their beck and call. I don't see that at all.

 

It screams entitlement and high-maintenance to me. If I saw something similar in a guy's profile, I wouldn't contact him or respond if he contacted me.

AD1980 Established Member

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I think im interesting...with alcohol:D otherwise im pretty reserved

HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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I read yours, it is to you too but moreso to OP.

 

 

I don't think saying must be entertaining, or keep my interest means they expect a man to be at their beck and call. I don't see that at all.

 

I wasn't saying that they are the same thing.

 

I was saying that the need to be entertained CONSTANTLY (ie: the guy has to be "on" 100% of the time) and the guy needing to drop everything, regardless of what he's doing, if the girl wants something are the signs of entitlement in women. I've actually seen it quite often, both on here and IRL.

 

I wasn't saying that wanting to have fun is a sign of entitlement lol. I actually think you're one of the more level-headed posters on here and I wasn't referring to you in my initial post.

ltjg45 Established Member

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I tend to avoid any female profiles that state that.

 

Can I be entertaining? Yeah.

 

Can I be entertaining 100% of the time? Heck no.

 

I can't even entertain myself 100% of the time and you expect me to be that way for you?

miss_jaclynrae Established Member

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I wasn't saying that they are the same thing.

 

I was saying that the need to be entertained CONSTANTLY (ie: the guy has to be "on" 100% of the time) and the guy needing to drop everything, regardless of what he's doing, if the girl wants something are the signs of entitlement in women. I've actually seen it quite often, both on here and IRL.

 

I wasn't saying that wanting to have fun is a sign of entitlement lol. I actually think you're one of the more level-headed posters on here and I wasn't referring to you in my initial post.

 

Point taken.

 

I honestly have never met such a woman, or a man, and personally wouldn't that be more a sign of insecurity? To want someone "on" 100% of the time is a clingy behavior more than anything. It screams attention.

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HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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Point taken.

 

I honestly have never met such a woman, or a man, and personally wouldn't that be more a sign of insecurity? To want someone "on" 100% of the time is a clingy behavior more than anything. It screams attention.

 

Yeah true.

 

But more often than not, people that are insecure tend to also be strangely entitled (just look at many of the thread starters here).

miss_jaclynrae Established Member

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Yeah true.

 

But more often than not, people that are insecure tend to also be strangely entitled (just look at many of the thread starters here).

 

Its a never ending circle of ****. :laugh:

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dasein Established Member

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People should have a rich life before entering a relationship, with plenty of self-created "entertainment." If they don't, watch out and generally avoid those for whom the relationship partner is expected to provide an overlarge chunk of their life.

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tbf Established Member

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"Women are spoiled for wanting what I don't possess."

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PogoStick Established Member

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"Must be able to keep my interest" or "must not be boring",

 

Also, anyone find it quite presumptuous when someone should surmise that the person they date must keep them "entertained"?

 

aka High Maintenance = Pogo don't play dat

TheGuard13 Established Member

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Pretty sure "Must be able to keep my interest" is just code for "Please don't message me unless we have some things in common and you think we're compatible". IE, don't try to get with a party girl if you're a wallflower. Don't try to get with an intellectual woman if you are a dumbass, etc.

HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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Pretty sure "Must be able to keep my interest" is just code for "Please don't message me unless we have some things in common and you think we're compatible". IE, don't try to get with a party girl if you're a wallflower. Don't try to get with an intellectual woman if you are a dumbass, etc.

 

The problem with this advice is that a wallflower could easily become a party animal if they want to be.....and dumbasses don't know they're a dumbass.

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