todreaminblue Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 There's this girl in a few of my college classes. We get along great and she was a great sense of humor. I think she likes in a romantic sense, though. Just little things she does made me reach that conclusion. The thing is, is she's not that attractive. She's got a bit of extra weight, but she's not fat, and she's quite short. She's not ugly, though. Do you think it's worth pursuing? Everything else about her is great. i know this, i have guys tell me i am sexy, or you look hot today,i like it when they say deb you look very sophisticated today, i am short and overweight,if i were to be with a guy who didnt find me attractive it would be extremely destructive to my self esteem,as if i know a guy doesnt find me attractive i can be told by five guys i am sexy and hot....that one guy who finds me ugly is enough to crash my self esteem and make me feel awkward and insecure......dont do it...allow her to find someone who loves all for her, her looks her humor her spirit....find someone you are attracted to g8ive her the chance to find someone who appreciates who she is...deb
spiderowl Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 How would you feel if she decided - quite independently and before you had time to make your mind up - that she didn't want to date you after all? That might tell you a little something about your deep down feelings for her.
reaver Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 How am I sexist? FWB is a viable solution. I am cocky though. I'll give you that. You are sexist because you seem to think women are only good for sex and being looked at. None of your posts indicate you give much weight to underneath
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 You are sexist because you seem to think women are only good for sex and being looked at. None of your posts indicate you give much weight to underneath I like good personalities too. I have MANY female friends and we get along quite well. IRL, I get along with pretty much everybody. And, yes, I like hot women and sex. There's as much wrong with that as a girl liking sex with a good-looking guy. Oftentimes, my advice is "If you like a girl, date her. If you don't like a girl that much, go for FWB. If you value the friendship and don't want to take it further, leave it alone." I don't see how that's sexist.
reaver Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I like good personalities too. I have MANY female friends and we get along quite well. IRL, I get along with pretty much everybody. And, yes, I like hot women and sex. There's as much wrong with that as a girl liking sex with a good-looking guy. Oftentimes, my advice is "If you like a girl, date her. If you don't like a girl that much, go for FWB. If you value the friendship and don't want to take it further, leave it alone." I don't see how that's sexist. No it is. So every girl to you that you dont like enough is automatic FWB material? Uhhh....if that isnt being obsessed with sex I dont know what is. OP, if youre going to do a FWB *make sure you tell her it is a FWB before you start*
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 No it is. So every girl to you that you dont like enough is automatic FWB material? Uhhh....if that isnt being obsessed with sex I dont know what is. OP, if youre going to do a FWB *make sure you tell her it is a FWB before you start* I never said I'm not obsessed with sex. We were arguing the validity of your claims that I'm a sexist. Also, I agree with the bolded. I don't think lying about it or leading someone on is ever a good idea.
frustr8ed Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Also, there was this one woman I went out with one time....every time she laughed or smile...she looked liked a man. She also didn't have a figure built like a woman either, she just didn't have "feminine' characteristics. Her penis was a deal breaker huh!
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