Tom5958 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Let me start in saying I love my girlfriend a lot. That being said I have done some things wrong. It all boils down to her not feeling appreciated, me being a negative person compared to the person I was when we first met (we now live together and have been together for a couple of years). She explained these things to me while I was away for 3 months, I have since been back and she said I haven't changed. I'm now making efforts to change myself but cannot seem to do things right. Recent example being I forgot to thank her for driving me and my friends back from town last night, its about a 2 mile trip. I got in ad told her I'm going to sleep because I felt ill. She is now on the verge of breaking up with me because of a culmination of these things. However I completed a 4hr drive while she slept the other day and didnt receive a thank you, but I don't expect one as she doesn't need to thank me! I have also found some horrible news out about a family member but she hasn't asked me how I feel about it or comforted me when if it was the reverse and I didn't do that I would be in the same predicament I'm in now. I have accepted my faults and apologised for the things I have done wrong no end! But when talking about it I'm met with anger and a reluctance to accept my apologies or accept the issues I have raised about things she has or has not done. Am I doing something wrong? Or is she being stubborn and I should expect a little back? Any advice? She tells me to be this positive guy but its hard to be positive when I'm world is crumbling around me! It's a big circle of my own doing!
uniqwa Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 First off.. Your gf seems to be like I was towards my ex O_- honestly IGNORE her.. Her bitchy attitude.. Well I had mine for other reasons, thought he didn't love me, insecure, extremely jelly type of ****.. First off.. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU or your actions, they are normal.. She expects too much and does not give the same in return, she most likely does not dwell on all the good because that "bad" is what stands out to her. I advise you to stand up for yourself. YOU tell her "listen, I'm trying, I honestly think we should take things slow, we both obviously need more time, i'm not meeting your standards, and I want to try, I want you to give me an opportunity and I feel as though, taking things slower will create a more positive result", You need her to see that you are making an effort.. YOU are trying.. She needs to understand that as well.. Perhaps bringing it up to her attention will in fact cause her to use her eyes and evaluate the good instead of the "bad"
Author Tom5958 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Thank you for your reply. The problem being is she has given me a few chances in the past month and every time I seem to find a way to prove to her she faults as has brought up to me.
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