lovecrazy Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 ok, i'll give a quik description of my relationship with this guy before i ask my questions. I met him about 2yrs ago and we've been fiends every since, the thing is i started liking him as more than friends. he lives 9hrs from here. so we've been talking on the phone, email, text messages and we've visited each other a few times. About a yr ago, our mutual friend told him that i liked him. still things have stayed the same.Apparently he didn't mind, he looked flattered. He keeps calling me. Last weekend i went overthere to see him. That to me, is being pretty forward with my feelings though we have never actually talked about it. When i was overthere i got really mixed signals from him, some things made me feel like he's interested too and at other times it was just like friends. Now my question is, Should I tell him i like him? Or do i just have to give it time. I'm so cofused because part of me wants to wait, then on the other side I keep falling more for him and i need to know how he feels. What should i do?? any advice?
Lost in the Moment Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Tell him no matter what. You should try to express your feelings openly always. Trust me I have learned the hard way that being quiet gets you no where even if some one else talks for you.
Scangie Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 What do you mean by mixed signals? What kinds of things was he doing that made you think he was interested?
EIN Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Speaking about me, I went for it. The thing is you have to be emotionally ready if he turns you down. Can you guys still be friends if you went through with this, ask yourself that.
xale Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Alright I am a 17yr old guy who has gone through this alot! you have a few options. 1) If you tell him and he is interested he will willingly go out with you, if he does like you it is probably killing him inside that you have not said anything at all. 2) If he really is your friend then if he does not like you he will be VERY nice about it and you will for sure keep your normal relationship with him 3) Finally, silence is not the answer I know personaly to many people that have learned it the hard way. Also if he rejects you nicly and you are totaly mortified then try being even closer friends, go the extra mile! Not to much or he might feel uncomfterbal. note- Guys act really tuf or nice but they are really cowards on the inside, afraid of what might happen belive me I know...
Author lovecrazy Posted September 16, 2004 Author Posted September 16, 2004 well the mixed signals were little things. I went with a couple of friends and my sister, he knowns them too. well he would sit next to me at every restaurant and at the movies, but he didn't make a move. He even went through my phone, and many other little things but yet other times he would just act like a friend. I guess the reason i'm scared to tell him is because i don't know if i'm ready if the answer is no. I'm scared of getting hurt, but i'm not sure i'm that better off not telling him either. Plus i'm concerned that it'll affect the friendship. Because once i say it, i can't take it back. so should i really tell him? Would that be the best thing right now?
Author lovecrazy Posted September 16, 2004 Author Posted September 16, 2004 i'm just so nervous, i have never made the first move with a guy before. I wouldn't even know where to begin or how exactly to tell him!!
xale Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 The best thing to do right now is to get it off your chest by telling him. If you are to nervous like I am you should seek some help from a mutial friend. Tell him/her to ither tell him to his face hint around or ask him if he wants to make a move. This might make you more fearful at first but later make you more confident. Also I think that you can not really trust giving him a letter or a note or even e-mail. you need to tell it to him in person once you decide when you feel up to it. Belive me I know.
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