So close and yet so far

[ooglesnboogles]

Just letting you know, this is more a rant than anything else.

 

Ugh. I felt like I was so close to a date and now she's backing out. This has happened enough times that I was at least halfway expecting it, even though I thought she liked me. Just sort of become my expectation: even if I find a girl and ask her out and get her number and maybe even set something up, it'll fall through. So freakin frustrating. I feel like I'm a fun guy, I've improved my looks drastically and in certain clothes look pretty damn good (I've never been able to say that before), but I can't get my confidence up when every opportunity I get collapses. ARG!!!

 

 

Ok, had to get that off my chest. End rant.

[picaso28]

That sucks mate.... Why what did she say when you asked her out?

 

Until a month or two ago I was stuck in a rut but I joined online dating. Since then had around 5 dates and also a couple with girl I worked with. Perseverance is the key, it will happen for you have faith.

 

I'm on stage two now, getting past the first or second date and progressing into something more. Not going great but it will happen soon am sure.

 

Just keep plugging away

[ooglesnboogles]

Thanks for the reply.

 

The past two girls I've asked seemed optimistic, or at least mildly excited about going out with me. But both have fallen through. Either no follow up, or sets up a date/time then bails out a day or so in advance.

Yesterday, I did find out that the most recent girl bailed because she had other, personal things going on and wanted to deal with that stuff first. Dunno if she was just saying it, but it seemed honest enough and made me feel better.

 

I've been pushing along, trying to keep my motivation to work out and keep myself clean and well-kept, just in case one of those odd opportunities comes up. It's tough but I keep chugging along.

 

Nice to hear your luck's turning around, at least somewhat. What online dating site are you using?

I never really put too much effort into my profile back when I had one, but I had a friend find a girlfriend a few months back by using Match. They lived pretty far away from each other. I don't know if I could date a girl who lives 2 hours away, seeing each other via Skype the majority of the time. But then again, once or twice a month he gets to hang out with her, so I guess he doesn't, eh? =P

[picaso28]

Its really frustrating when they seem keen but then bail. What I have found with the dating game is some women tend to agree and are genuinely keen but then they start to over think things and that's when the brush off happens. I think men tend to be more open to dating where as a lot of women seem to only want to date someone they immediately can see themselves settling down with.

 

I am developing a hard skin now. If a girl brushes me off I think well she missed out as she didn't have chance to get to know me. Plus not everyone can like eachother. Just plug away. Keep going the gym and don't think there is something wrong with you you get brushed off.

 

I am using plenty of fish. I only speak to local women, as you say I'm not into long distance. Its all a learning curve for me so I can get some game. Each women I speak to or go on a date with is teaching me how to land the big prize.

[ooglesnboogles]

Yeah, that's what I've been thinking too. Says yes then second-guesses or something. Maybe I gotta move faster or something.

 

I've definitely built up a tougher skin. Lately, I've felt better about myself (and had a little more confidence because of it), but it's still tough when nothing fruitful happens.

[rhitt]

Sorry, sounds rough. No advice to give just sympathy.

[ooglesnboogles]

Sorry, sounds rough. No advice to give just sympathy.

 

 

Thanks either way frustrating, but just nice to vent and hear from others