atarisboy86 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Hey LS "family", I'm back. I posted here in November of 2011 and August of 2012 with the stories of my ex. Against pretty much everyone's better judgement, we reconciled for the second time in September of 2012. This last round lasted until February 18, 2013. I haven't posted here earlier because I've been working on myself, I started going to the gym the week after the breakup and have been going consistently since. I'm still in limited/low contact because of pending financial issues, but for the most part, I'm moving forward. It helps that she has found a guy that she is dating, so therefore she isn't contacting me as she would in the past. I hope to continue posting on LS more often and maybe giving others advice on their situations. I can assure you all it hasn't been easy and it probably won't. I mean, I've been on and off with the same girl for the past two years, in a relationship that should've been over in the first month it started. Let's have a more positive 2013 and future than we've all had in the past. Good luck, I know you can do it.
CompleteFailure Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 We don't know each other but welcome back. 1
Author atarisboy86 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Thank you. I'm glad to be back and see others are in the same or similar situation and we can all help each other in coping and dealing with our breakups.
crustyjojo Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Can I ask why it did not work second time around?
Author atarisboy86 Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 Can I ask why it did not work second time around? This was actually the THIRD time around. I posted here and went against most people's opinions, because I cared for the girl and I thought she cared for me. We started off okay with her being "100% in the relationship", we saw a therapist a few times, etc, etc. Our problem was always the difference in sex drive, amongst other things. She would withdraw from sex for a week or two at a time. In response, I put her on more of a pedestal, doing things for her, buying her things, taking her places....she was being rewarded without doing any work. My mistake. It was a chore for her to have any sort of intimacy with me. Excuses like "i don't like sex", "it hurts me", "stop bugging me" 'I'm tired" Well for better or for worse, i started to drift apart and was on my way towards cheating (yes, a big no no, and I'm glad I didn't get to that stage).... It ended with a drunk argument between the two of us...she is now seeing the ex bf of her friend, who she lost a friendship with over this guy. I have to keep limited contact because of pending financial issues but anything else is over. She wanted to keep a friendship with me because as she says "life is short and you only live once"...i didn't understand as if I "cheated" on her as she thinks, she wouldn't want to be friends....and now, she enjoys sex with this guy and a few others 'to get her mind off of our breakup' ha. I told her I couldn't be friends with her. anyway...moving forward, working on myself, working out, etc...not too worried about the future, what's meant to happen always does, eventually.
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