lissa90 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Curious to know what the average amount of time is? We have been broken up only 5 weeks, no contact for nearly 4 days. I am still in love with him but there is no point in tormenting myself with rehashing my happy memories in my mind over and over and I feel like I atleast want to get back into the dating world. Before I met him, I had dedicated the last 5 years on just my daughter, my studies and being happy just the two of us. I then felt the time was right and that I was ready for a relationship. Kind of feel guilty that I want to date so soon and that I should still be in "mourning"....its just that I am 22, I'm still young...I don't want to waste months on end crying and being sombre over something I can't even have..
KatZee Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 (edited) I think you kind of just know. I know for me, I finally feel like my life is on the right track. I'm out there, doing new things, meeting new people. I have a great job, my semi-new apartment, I have plans pretty much every weekend getting out there. I'm more confident, secure and aware of who I am than I've ever been in my life or with a guy. I feel like the only thing missing now, is a partner. So I'm going to start getting out into the dating scene pretty soon. I'm 11 months post breakup with my ex. I personally don't find that jumping back into dating immediately helps me at all. If anything it just temporarily masks pain. I'm all about getting through it and being over someone before I try dating again. Too many people carry their garbage and drama from person to person without getting through it. I don't want to be a contributor of that lifestyle. Edited April 14, 2013 by KatZee
Author lissa90 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Did you date casually at all in those 11 months or were you purely just focused on making yourself happy? I feel conflicted in that I want to move on but feel like I should wait because its the done thing
KatZee Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Did you date casually at all in those 11 months or were you purely just focused on making yourself happy? I feel conflicted in that I want to move on but feel like I should wait because its the done thing I haven't dated at all. I was and still am completely focused on myself only. I've virtually never been single my entire life. I've finally found what really interests me, I've learned more about myself in these 11 months than in almost 29 years of life. 1
Author lissa90 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Ahh I see! I am the opposite, I have never had a relationship since my daughter was born - spent a good 5 years getting to know how I work! Its empowering when you know yourself inside out and back to front isn't it :]
jennypenny5 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I think you should start dating when you feel like you're ready again. If you feel like now is the time then go for it. Do what will make you happy.
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