Should I end it?

[confxsed]

Sorry if this is a bit lengthy but please take the time to read it and help me, it would be hugely appreciated.

 

It kills me to write this because breaking up is the last thing I want to do but I'm not sure how much longer I can carry on.

Basically, I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months and there was a time where I really thought I loved him but now I'm not so sure.

He's a lovely guy, we rarely argue and he's never intentionally hurt me, he says he loves me but I'm his first serious girlfriend and I'm not sure he knows what love is exactly (not that anybody really does). Admittedly, we don't have much in common, some of our values are quite different, we never have deep/stimulating conversations or tell each other secrets and **** like that, we're not really close. I just don't think he's that type of person, maybe we're different people? I also think he's stopped enjoying sex as much. We don't really do much together because we're both young and don't have a lot of money but we spend a lot of time together at his place, except he has house mates who are ALWAYS there, it's okay sometimes but it would be nice if my boyfriend could make an effort to move to another room so we could spend time just together. (I'm a very anxious person and have trouble making conversation in a room full of people, it makes me feel very uncomfortable and he knows this but it doesn't seem to register.) I also have some mental health issues which he's aware of but doesn't seem remotely interested in, he doesn't ever ask me how I'm coping or anything and that's something I'd like support with. I'm not sure what he thinks of the relationship or if these things ever cross his mind, he just seems so clueless! I can't bring myself to break up with him because I know he means well, I want to love him but I think I'm more attached than anything, I can't see my life without him and I don't want to end it, he is literally the only person I've got.

 

I tried to speak to him about something before but he took it the wrong way and started talking about how much of a **** boyfriend and useless person he is and we both got quite upset, the problem continued and when I tried speaking to him about it again, he'd forgotten completely.

How do I speak to him without upsetting him or damaging the relationship?

I just want to make things work, do you think it's possible?

[CompleteFailure]

"I can't see my life without him and I don't want to end it" I think you answered your own question.

 

Is there someone else you can talk with about your mental health issues? He probably doesn't want you to start treating him like your therapist. I agree though, he could at least ask how you're doing/coping with it once in awhile.

 

Find a friend, support group, or therapist you can talk with about the other stuff. I don't think there is a specific forum here to discuss mental health issues but you could try the self-improvement and personal well-being section.