freetolove Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 When he was first seeing me he would be really sweet now that the honey moon stage has died off, he's not being very nice. I've been going through a lot and when I call him up, he's be really short with me. Telling me to "get over it" and things like that. I just had a death in the family so it isn't something simple. I'm about to lose my job as well. I don't know what's going into him so I started distancing myself from him. When I talk to him, he doesn't seem to be really listening anymore. I try to talk to him about it but he gets all defensive. Should I just leave him?
miss_jaclynrae Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 If you are asking, the answer is probably yes.
TaraMaiden Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 He wants to dump you, but would rather it was you who dumped him. Then he can tell people how you became all depressed and moody, and dumped him out of the blue.... betcha......
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Are you the type who typically needs a lot of attention and support? do you think he might see you a bit as a drama queen or always in need of comfort because the sky is always falling? I'd suspect this guy is entering the stages of getting over it and falling out of the honeymoon stage...and any guy can be nice and sweet in that stage so unfortunately I don't attribute that to much either, just because a guy acts a certain way in the beginning doesn't mean it'll last, they can be p-whipped or just into the whirlwind for the time being, which increases the patience and attention for many men by 100 times...for that phase. But then the real relationship starts. I think he sees this as a burden, do you think he thinks now you're going to ask him to move in or try to take it to the next level? I detect frustration and annoyance on his end and he's likely already pulling away from you, therefore your distancing will only increase by farther (not that you should cling onto him for dear life, that'll just be the end of you) but you should have a serious grown-up conversation, without getting overly emotional and try to talk things out and find out the real problem and be honest with yourselves and each other...if you're one of those emotional hot messes though when you imagine breaking up out of a fear of abandonment or something then you can be sure he will not be very honest with you because he already knows how you're going to react and will only look for a way out of the relationship without much backlash.
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