creighton0123 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 ..... Thoughts? Why are people so afraid or against actually doing something as simple as picking up the phone and calling? The last time I did OLD, I felt that 75% of the guys I talked to were anti-telephone, but willing to text for hours about the most random crap. After the end of a 2 year relationship a few months ago, I experience the same thing. Am I old now? Did I miss the memo where people no longer talk on the phone for 5 to 10 minutes and instead opt for wasting an hour texting? 1
Author creighton0123 Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 That would be actual real interpersonal interaction, which most people are afraid of, and most people under 30 barely even know how to do. That's been part of my problem. I've been anti-texting for as long as I can remember. Had my first cell phone when I was 22 and even now I prefer not to give my cell phone out (give my land line out.... yeah... I'm a 28 year old with a land line). I had a few interesting conversations about that.... especially now that my land line actually receives text messages. I just.... it's.... just.... that device in my hand is a telephone! 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 My experience has been that when a guy is looking for a relationship he calls. When he's looking for something casual he texts exclusively. I've had young guys call. I've had middle-aged guys text exclusively. I used it as one datapoint in assessing someone new. I don't date teenagers or the 55+ set. If those are your targets, I can't help you. YMMV.
Author creighton0123 Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 Well, Cutiepie, my age range is 26-35. I think that's a good age range for my being 28 (29 in two weeks).
suladas Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I have never had a phone call from someone with OLD, I will always text I just prefer it. Even when in a relationship it's texting for me, never phone calls.
Author creighton0123 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 I have never had a phone call from someone with OLD, I will always text I just prefer it. Even when in a relationship it's texting for me, never phone calls. I don't get this.... I don't think I'll ever get it. Text messaging: slowing down and introducing massive miscommunication throughout the world. 1
GMG90 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 If my partner is gone like he is now, then I prefer a little mix of text/talk. I see some value in calling but I can't say we do it every night. More of a Monday-Wednesday-Friday sort of schedule for that... Honestly he gets pissy if we do it too often and has one of his manic episodes eventually.
soccerrprp Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Man, again, not my experience. I date from 37-45 and every woman I've dated wanted to speak on the phone and did.
Star Gazer Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I haven't experienced this. Usually, the guy calls within a day of texting.
Author creighton0123 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 I haven't experienced this. Usually, the guy calls within a day of texting. My pet peeve with OLD is giving the phone number to get things off of email exchange saying "Here's my number. Call me soon." and I get a text... Being anti-texting, I take the text outside of business hours (evening or around lunch time) as a sign that the person is free and call only to be sent to voicemail. This is the top of my list. And perhaps why two out of my three serious relationships have been with people I have not met through an OLD website. Although current guy I'm on a third date with I did meet through OLD two and a half years ago. We did become friends and are now dating... does that count as having met in person :-P Oh, and he answers the phone.
Star Gazer Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 My pet peeve with OLD is giving the phone number to get things off of email exchange saying "Here's my number. Call me soon." and I get a text... Being anti-texting, I take the text outside of business hours (evening or around lunch time) as a sign that the person is free and call only to be sent to voicemail. Oddly, the guys I meet via OLD are more likely to call me, than the guys I meet other ways. The OLD guys typically will text first, a sort of, "Hey Star, this is so-and-so from OLD site..." and we'll exchange a couple pleasant texts, and then BAM! he'll call. The guys I meet other ways seem to rely solely on texting.
FitChick Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I don't have this problem possibly because I date men over 50.
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