JakeF Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 My girlfriend and I have been through it all. She has cheated on me, causing me to emotionally abuse her. We both have made our share of mistakes. We used to live together and we shared a life. I want her back but she has turned off her phone and I have no way of contacting her. In the morning before she broke up with me, everything seemed fine. We cuddled, ate breakfast and she went to work. I thought we were going to go on a date, but instead when she got back, she just broke up with me. If it is over, I asked if I could get some closure but I did not recieve any. These past 2 days have been hell for me. I feel so empty, so alone. She was my best friend, and the one for me and now she is gone. I begged her to stay, saying we can solve our problems together but she left. I want her back. It feels as though there is a big hole in my chest. I am comtemplating suicide right now, the pain she left behind hurts and cuts very deep. Right now I am so confused, in so much pain. I can't go out with my friends to cope with it because I gave up my friends since my girlfriend didn't like them. I choose my girlfriend over them, and now I'm all alone. I thought we were going to eventually get married and start a family together. How do I cope with this pain?
denxnis Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Same thing happened to me except we were together for 6 years. Something must have triggered it, another guy, a new friend, something. Try to accept her decision and not beg her to come back, you begging only gives her the impression that you need her more than she needs you, this may be true but don't show her this. I was in the same EXACT situation as you 6 months ago. Wait a few months, if you still feel like committing suicide then do it but I can almost guarantee you won't. Also I gave up most of my friends for her too. You will get through this and become a better person than you were before.
CopingGal Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Wait a few months, if you still feel like committing suicide then do it but I can almost guarantee you won't. . I know this person is trying to help, but Hell no. Absolutely don't do it, even if you feel the same way. It may take you a shorter or longer time to feel better. Just hang in there. Don't listen to "do it." Terrible advice. 5
lop98 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 It is a loss and you should handle it as a loss by getting professional help, especially if you're having suicidal thoughts. You can't be on your own, you buried that person down but trust me, he's still there, you can still enjoy being around yourself, you can still find love and find new people, and find the strength to move on and carry on leaving all that pain behind, and it's better if you have someone with the right credentials helping you out.. we all need help. Best of luck.
Author JakeF Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 I can't move on. I can't do it. She was my first love, and I tried to get over her but I can't. I wake up and this pain is killing me. I do not know what to do. She still loves me, and I still love her but we can't be together because her parents health is failing and her parents wish was for me to dissappear. I don't know how to handle this pain anymore. I just want to kill myself.
a0009 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 (edited) I am in pain of being dumped and its been two weeks and its still hard for me. I miss her alot and I still love her and I am in pain :( .... but i dont want to commit suicide. One thing I want to tell you is not to commit suicide. Do not do it please. She is not worth your life...you have not wasted 100yrs with her, its only 8yrs so dont lose your life for her..... Ask yourself if you think she will commit suicide for you? The answer is definately NO, if its yes still DONT DO IT. You have to bear the pain and be strong, If you commit suicide its your loss not hers, she will cry about it for few days then start banging and cuddling with other guys while your cold dead decomposing body will be cuddling with worms in a graveyard,. You dont want that so dont commit suicide, Another thing is that she wont come back if you are dead, and she wont come back to you if you commit suicide and become a zombie.... Also dont let people who care and love you waste their tears because you couldn't handle a breakup....and the only way to boost your chances of her coming back to you by being alive and successful.... Also try moving on and do contact her,..let her contact you first..... If you do not get another chance with her date other girls after sometime and maybe you will be a happier..... Edited April 16, 2013 by a0009
Damaged23 Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Suicide is not the solution. We all know it hurts now, but one day it won't. Stay around, someone out there is probably waiting for you. There's a reason you're going through this. Struggles make us stronger, better, and you are no exception. Life has something good for you, give time some time!!! You are going to be happy soon. You'll see.
Martian_J Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Dear jake, First and foremost, i want you to know that life is a precious gift and you shouldn't waste it by taking your own life. I went through the same thing with my ex-fiance. We were together for two years until she left me for another man. I did everything for her and it still wasn't enough. When she left me i felt the same as you, i thought about ending my life because we were no longer together. She was my best friend. We were engaged, and looking for places to live. I didn't have friends anymore because i chose her over them, so i had nobody to fall back on. I thought about her everyday and cried way more then i'd care to admit. But one day it clicked. we shouldn't stress over people who don't want our love. They left us and the best we can do is try to find someone who is willing to return that love equally. Always remember that a relationship is 50/50. No more no less. Try to avoid thinking about your ex. What worked for me is hitting the gym and keeping my mind busy. I suggest you find a hobby or any activity that helps you. if you want to talk some more, im always here for you man.
iouaname Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Jake, I am so sorry that you are going through this. As someone who has also struggled with suicidal thoughts in the past, I know that there are moments that just feel so overwhelming, and I know that sometimes it's hard to imagine a future for yourself. You NEED to seek professional help. It is very difficult for people to get through such a deep depression on their own. I contemplated suicide at one point in my life because I was dealing with a traumatic issue (this goes way back, before my ex). Had I not reached out for help, I really do not know if I would be here today and I can say without a doubt that I am so glad to be here today. Remember that nothing is permanent - you will not feel this pain forever. If you are feeling suicidal, then I urge you to reach out to someone. It can be a friend or a close family member, and let them know how you feel. A hospital might be a good choice for you right now, because they will evaluate you, keep you safe, and help you through the toughest part of this while you gain some clarity and a grasp on the situation. Be strong, Jake!
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