McGriff Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Ok, so been broken up for almost 2 months, NC 19 days. Last night I went to the neighborhood bar with my Dad (I'm 42, he's 69, but the old man can still hang lol). I was really only going to try and get away from my thoughts for a few hours, and it was a lively crowd. Fridays have been tough for me, because that was usually me and my ex's most fun filled nights. So I wanted to get out of the house. Well, lo and behold, a nice-looking blonde comes in with her friend and sits across the bar from me. We catch eyes a couple times, but my confidence is down, so I didn't make any moves. About 30 minutes later, she sends her friend over to tell me she thinks I'm cute and to come rescue her from some twit who was trying to hit on her. THIS WAS A HUGE MOMENT FOR ME. Since the BU, I have tried to get my confidence back (I have always been self confident, but this BU really chopped me down), but it's really been a struggle. This was maybe the jolt I needed to start my dead battery lol. Anyway, I end up talking with her til closing, we ended up kissing, and are going out for dinner and drinks tonight. I have fully disclosed my situation, and am not expecting much more than spending time with an attractive woman who's really into me. You do what you gotta do to get back up off the canvas, know what I mean? So today is the first Saturday that I haven't been moping around thinking about the ex. I feel pretty good today. Not GREAT, but much better than I have been. I think that the ego and self confident boost may be what I need to kick start a more timely healing? Don't get me wrong, I still miss her terribly, but the company of a pretty woman has strange healing powers. Wish me luck! 5
guysmily25 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 This is excellent brother!!!! Don't think about you ex at all, just enjoy the company! 1
ThorntonMelon Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Nice work Crime Dog, doesn't matter what happens you're on the right path.
Pisces13 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Good on you man It definitely helps getting back out there, you just need to take the leap. Not sure if you saw my post about it, but I had a similar situation last night. 5 weeks post breakup, I ended up going out with a former work colleague of mine, and we had an awesome time. I didn't think about the ex at all, well, I did, but not in an emotional state. My complete focus was on the girl I was spending the night with, and it felt really good. It is honestly the best I've felt in a long time! Even this morning I feel a lot better about everything. It will definitely help boost your confidence back up, and just make you feel a lot better in general.
atarisboy86 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Good job! I'm about two months post BU and have recently started talking to other girls as well. It's only platonic but it feels good to have attention from girls, and it makes you realize that your ex wasn't the only girl in the world...there are plenty of others that like/love you completely.
itto ogami Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 This is the kind of thing that will clear your head and help you look forward not bad.
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