fabulousgal Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 So, I just got a gift in the mail from my ex. I know he sent it prior to dumping me. Which made me wonder, how could he go from sending me a gift to dumping me and devaluing me and our relationship so cruelly in a span of 7 days? He wasn't the most reliable so I wasn't sure if I was really getting anything or not. Turns out I was. For about 1 minute I felt overwhelmed with grief but truth is, he didn't do stuff like this for me very much, was pretty selfish and painted him to be the perfect man and me a b* of a girlfriend. I won't break NC over this. This really sucks I want to be six months from today and moved on right now. I think I am 14 days NC and have been feeling pretty depressed the past few, but accepting he doesn't define my worth and was pretty low and toxic. 1
Am4Real Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 i'M having trouble making sense of your timeline, So, I just got a gift in the mail from my ex. I know he sent it prior to dumping me. Which made me wonder, how could he go from sending me a gift to dumping me and devaluing me and our relationship so cruelly in a span of 7 days? He wasn't the most reliable so I wasn't sure if I was really getting anything or not. Turns out I was. For about 1 minute I felt overwhelmed with grief but truth is, he didn't do stuff like this for me very much, was pretty selfish and painted him to be the perfect man and me a b* of a girlfriend. I won't break NC over this. This really sucks I want to be six months from today and moved on right now. I think I am 14 days NC and have been feeling pretty depressed the past few, but accepting he doesn't define my worth and was pretty low and toxic.
Author fabulousgal Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 22 days ago we were out and he mentioned a gift he ordered for me. 7 days later he dumped me after he freaked out I took an hour to return a text message, when I was with a friend and I thought he was with his. He spent about 6 hours telling me how awful I am, and completely devalued our time together. I sat there and just took it. Not the first time he had his tirades on how I am not a good girlfriend. I have been NC ever since, the way he spoke to me was cruel and I wouldn't wish it on anyone getting broken up with.
Author fabulousgal Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Well I am in quite a messed up state since receiving that in the mail. I never opened it and will toss it at some point when I get out of bed. Have been in bed all day, crying and trying to process why he'd say those things to me during our break-up. He painted himself to be a saint when quite in fact he did a lot that hurt me but I never brought them up during the dumping. He also got in some low blows about our sex life. I hope no one ever treats his daughter that way. The only silver lining I have in this sad state is that the gift in no way gave me an excuse to contact him. I feel like in past break-ups, I would rationalize a way to get back in contact to say thanks. Not in this case. Thanks for treating a girl who stood by you and had your back during your unemployment like s* on a shoe out of no where.
Am4Real Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I'm very sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you. Well I am in quite a messed up state since receiving that in the mail. I never opened it and will toss it at some point when I get out of bed. Have been in bed all day, crying and trying to process why he'd say those things to me during our break-up. He painted himself to be a saint when quite in fact he did a lot that hurt me but I never brought them up during the dumping. He also got in some low blows about our sex life. I hope no one ever treats his daughter that way. The only silver lining I have in this sad state is that the gift in no way gave me an excuse to contact him. I feel like in past break-ups, I would rationalize a way to get back in contact to say thanks. Not in this case. Thanks for treating a girl who stood by you and had your back during your unemployment like s* on a shoe out of no where.
Author fabulousgal Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 Thanks, it has been disposed of like a dirty diaper. I feel better today, up and moving, will resume my daily pilates class tonight. I wish that I was more over it than I am, I feel like self-esteem plays a big role in why I am not. Can only get better from here?
Am4Real Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Hang in there FAB girl!!! Thanks, it has been disposed of like a dirty diaper. I feel better today, up and moving, will resume my daily pilates class tonight. I wish that I was more over it than I am, I feel like self-esteem plays a big role in why I am not. Can only get better from here?
JD1977 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Well hell, keep the gift!!! Nothing says I'm over you like rockin the new shoes he gave you, or whatever it is!
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