white123 Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 I'm not any playboy or something like that but I had a few relationships (but not so long) and I found out that if there is no "spark" at the first date, it will never come.. what are your experiences? I only got a two types of dates (when I really like a girl): 1.) the girl want to sleep with me and she is really horny with me in the bed,she really wanna f*ck with me 2.) the girl want to date me, but it is more a "mind" solution - she feels that we are connected, we understand each other, I'm a good man for relationship and she believes that love and passion will come at the future frankly, I don't. I think that "spark" is very physical condition and chemical - the spark is here or it is not and never will be there.. but anyway I'm curious about your experiences, am I right or... Link to post Share on other sites
ses Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 That "spark" is called physical attraction. I'll know it by the end of the first date. Sure, I may be attracted to a guy and want to f--- his brains out but I can wait and let the anticipation and desire build. It all depends on the guy, and how badly I want him at that moment. Obviously I'll act interested and desire a LTR if we click and I feel comfortable but I may be mentally undressing you too. Link to post Share on other sites
creighton0123 Posted April 14, 2013 Share Posted April 14, 2013 I've found that if you don't feel a spark after the third date, it won't happen. I embrace a three date rule: if the other person wants to, I will give him three dates before I make up my mind if I have had fun on the first and second. Things that have resulted in my not having a second or third date: 1. Conversation doesn't flow well with me. They talk too much and don't engage me in the conversation. 2. They expect me to pick up the tab on a $100 table (I'm not going to pay that much for a dinner with someone I don't know is going to work out... might be different if I were heterosexual). 3. They don't want a second or third date. It's usually worked for me and allowed me to rule out people I might have felt an initial spark with (due to horniness or alcohol) only to realize that I had no attraction after the second or third date. Also discovered that attraction is subjective given the environment you're in. You might have a hard time feeling an initial connection with someone in a loud resturaunt, but find that a quiet one or outdoors really changes the energy and experience enough to discover latent attraction. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts