ruthieo Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Ok I have a major problem, I have been dating this guy for about a two months. I love him with all my heart I don't know what I would do without him in my life. He mean the world to me. I tell him everything. Well this is my problem. About a weekl ago we got in an argument. He kind of told me in a weird way that he didn't really believe me then I told him I love him or when I told him that I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. And I knew he had doubted it because he would alwasy ask me if I was sure positive. Or something like that. He would just question everything I said. Well Ever since then I feel like he won't talk to me about anything. He will get really quite and He won't look at me or really notice me at all almost like I am not even there. I ask him if anything is wrong and if he is ok and everytime he says nothing But I know something is going on in his head. But also he has never really been all that open to me if he had a problem or a bad day he'd rather not talk about it. But just before this fight happend he really started opening up to me and now I feel like I am walking around with a brick wall, that I can't get threw to him to see what is going on. I don't know why he is acting like this and If I lose him I don't know what I am going to do. Please tell what to do.
myheart02 Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 First my question to you is did he tell you he loves you and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you? If the answer is no I think he probably is backing off because things are moving to fast for him. I think he was starting to open up with you because there wasn't that obligation to say he loves you and he was just going with the flow. I don't know what it is but I find that when the woman is the first to say she loves him the guy gets scared. He might feel the same way but he wants time to discover that for himself. Plus you have taken that relationship to another level by telling him that which maybe he wasn't ready for yet. I think what I would do is sit him down and ask him how that made him feel. Tell him you want to take things slow. That you do love him but you don't want to jump in to fast. Let him know that you want to know his thought just build up the communication level with him.
Zakar Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 When a girl is too open to a guy, it's a real turn off. When a man's not into commitment, hearing his girl talk about it is right up there with listening to grandma tell her stories of when she was a kid. If all a girl talks to us about is how much they love us and want to marry us, we have no choice but to close up and back away. What you need to do is just stop. Pretend like none of that ever happened. Go back to how it "used to be." That's what he wants, I guarantee it. Never ask him, "What's wrong?" Usually in that case, nothing is actually wrong. However, the bigger deal you make of it, the bigger he will. If you suspect something is wrong, by golly, he'll find things to be wrong. Yep, just press the reset button your relationship before it's too late.
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