ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I sent the text that ended things and it sucks really bad. I'm really bummed and yeah... idk I just wish things would work themselves out because I really liked this guy. I know a few months isn't enough time to know anything but I really know that I liked him.
Mack05 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Ended it by Text....Really classy.. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Imagine loving someone with all your heart and being dumped by text.. You will get sympathies from others on this thread. Not me 4
foreverandalways Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Ended it by Text....Really classy.. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Imagine loving someone with all your heart and being dumped by text.. You will get sympathies from others on this thread. Not me IB needed to end this relationship. Regardless of the way she did it. She needs to be alone for a while and be by herself to figure out what she wants in life and her relationship. I'm glad she was able to stand up and do it, even if it was through text. IB I hope you take some time and stay single, just figure out your independence before you become exclusive with someone. Good luck!
Star Gazer Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Ended it by Text....Really classy.. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Imagine loving someone with all your heart and being dumped by text.. You will get sympathies from others on this thread. Not me Do you know the background facts at all? How else do you communicate with someone who won't see or call you back? 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 Ended it by Text....Really classy.. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Imagine loving someone with all your heart and being dumped by text.. You will get sympathies from others on this thread. Not me Ok well first of all i tried to call him and it was sent to voicemail, I texted him last night and said "can we talk about this (our issues)" and he said "I'm at a game right now" so I said ok well I would like to talk to you about some stuff so just call me when you get a chance.. nothing. I apologized for doing it via text but he left me no option especially since he "doesn't have time" to see me face to face.
suladas Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Ended it by Text....Really classy.. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Imagine loving someone with all your heart and being dumped by text.. You will get sympathies from others on this thread. Not me He is the one who really ended it but he made it worse by making her to be the one to actually pull the trigger. 2
Mack05 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 (edited) Ok well first of all i tried to call him and it was sent to voicemail, I texted him last night and said "can we talk about this (our issues)" and he said "I'm at a game right now" so I said ok well I would like to talk to you about some stuff so just call me when you get a chance.. nothing. I apologized for doing it via text but he left me no option especially since he "doesn't have time" to see me face to face. Suladas if he ended it then there was no need for her text? Sorry I am catching up. I see your point(s). I am just one of these people who feel you should treat people with respect. Even if they don't return the favour. If you were trying for a few days I'd say fair enough, but not even 24 hours? Listen I'm sure he is a douche, but if you continue to treat people with respect (even) in the face of adversity good things will come to you. Not only that the world would be a better place. These days people play too much games. They worry to much about being a doormat. Worry about ego's. You can't be a doormat if you believe fully in yourself. You rise above everything and anything petty. This is just my opinion. I'm fine with people disagreeing. Foreverandalways stop projecting. I get you don't like me. No need to follow me around and disagree with my opinion on every thread. We view life VERY differently. I won't be commenting on any of your threads anymore. Your last post on your other thread was very good and to the point. I wish you well despite our differences. Edited April 13, 2013 by Mack05
Star Gazer Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Sorry I am catching up. I am just one of these people who feel you should treat people with respect. One of the ways you treat people with respect is by not rushing to judgment and understanding the entire story and circumstances prior to opining.
Infnitysign Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Ended it by Text....Really classy.. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Imagine loving someone with all your heart and being dumped by text.. You will get sympathies from others on this thread. Not me I love this guy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mack05 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 (edited) One of the ways you treat people with respect is by not rushing to judgment and understanding the entire story and circumstances prior to opining. you are not getting my point. I don't need to read her threads...Is that black and white? Absolutely! BUT I am black and white on certain topics. I freely admit to this. I am cool you don't agree and I don't wish to hijack the OP's thread anymore. Edited April 13, 2013 by Mack05
dreamingoftigers Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Ended it by Text....Really classy.. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Imagine loving someone with all your heart and being dumped by text.. You will get sympathies from others on this thread. Not me See her previous thread. This guy wouldn't have considered her any better. And frankly, she probably wouldn't be able to get ahold of him any other way. 1
suladas Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Suladas if he ended it then there was no need for her text? Sorry I am catching up. I see your point(s). I am just one of these people who feel you should treat people with respect. Even if they don't return the favour. If you were trying for a few days I'd say fair enough, but not even 24 hours? Listen I'm sure he is a douche, but if you continue to treat people with respect (even) in the face of adversity good things will come to you. Not only that the world would be a better place. These days people play too much games. They worry to much about being a doormat. Worry about ego's. You can't be a doormat if you believe fully in yourself. You rise above everything and anything petty. This is just my opinion. I'm fine with people disagreeing. Foreverandalways stop projecting. I get you don't like me. No need to follow me around and disagree with my opinion on every thread. We view life VERY differently. I won't be commenting on any of your threads anymore. Your last post on your other thread was very good and to the point. I wish you well despite our differences. They didn't see each other for like 3 weeks, he wouldn't see her that is pretty clear cut to ending things IMO. She just made it official. I will agree ending things by text is a bad thing to do (i've had it done to me and it really sucks) but in this case I agree with it completely, especially that she also tried to call him to at least do it by phone. 2
Mack05 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 See her previous thread. This guy wouldn't have considered her any better. And frankly, she probably wouldn't be able to get ahold of him any other way. Then don't bother with the text. Deep down clearly she knew it was already over. If it's over its over. By sending the text (In my opinion) she is just stooping to his level.. It seems all she did was do his dirty work. There was no need. I'm not going back and forth with other posters. For one I have had too much wine..
suladas Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Then don't bother with the text. Deep down clearly she knew it was already over. If it's over its over. By sending the text (In my opinion) she is just stooping to his level.. It seems all she did was do his dirty work. There was no need. I'm not going back and forth with other posters. For one I have had too much wine.. I disagree with that, I think it has to be officially said, because otherwise there can be doubt. 2
Star Gazer Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Then don't bother with the text. Deep down clearly she knew it was already over. If it's over its over. By sending the text (In my opinion) she is just stooping to his level.. No, it gives finality to the end, and allows her to feel in control of the end of her romantic relationships. If you knew ANYTHING about the torment she experienced with this guy, you wouldn't be saying the things you are. She did what was right for HER, and that's what we all should do and applaud. 2
Mack05 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 (edited) I disagree with that, I think it has to be officially said, because otherwise there can be doubt. Doubt? He has been treating her like **&^ apparently. I guess I am the only one who feels after making numerous attempts to see/call him, that you should just disappear (which I feel shows real strength). Fair enough. I see your points, but my view point wouldn't change. I am black and white on some things. The 'breakup via text' is one of them. I am glad she is getting the support she needs from other posters.. Edited April 13, 2013 by Mack05
suladas Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Doubt? He has been treating her like **&^ apparently. I guess I am the only one who feels after making attempts to see/call him, that you should just disappear (which I feel shows real strength). Fair enough. I see your points, but my view point wouldn't change. I am black and white on some things. The 'breakup via text' is one of them. I am glad she is getting the support she needs from other posters.. I think disappearing is more cowardly and worse then ending things by text. 1
Mack05 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I think disappearing is more cowardly and worse then ending things by text. How exactly? She has tried to contact him (on a few occasions apparently?). He brushes her off. The next move is his? If he doesn't make it, then yeah I disappear in her shoes..
Star Gazer Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 How exactly? She has tried to contact him (on a few occasions apparently?). He brushes her off. The next move is his? If he doesn't make it, then yeah I disappear in her shoes.. Why don't you read up before opining. Come back when you've read all 720 posts.
Mack05 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Why don't you read up before opining. Come back when you've read all 720 posts. Not going to read up. My opinion is my opinion. I am entitled to it? To give a different viewpoint? There is nothing cowardly about disappearing. It's about self respect and dignity..She made attempts to contact the guy. He brushes her off. After that it's move. If he doesn't make it to hell with him. He is a douche. You say to yourself "I deserve better". Texting just stoops to his level. . Not only that it looks so weak because it is. She just did what he wanted her to do. Rise above him.
KatZee Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Wow, it couldn't have been any clearer that he was done with this "relationship" based on his responses to you. "I'm at a game." And then doesn't even bother getting back to you. He's a coward; as are most people these days. I really don't see the issue with you doing it by text. He doesn't really deserve any respect for the way he was acting towards you. At least now there is no grey area here. Since you ended it, it's done. Did he even respond at all? Or did he ignore that text as well? 4
Star Gazer Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 There is nothing cowardly about disappearing. He is a douche. You contradict yourself. She did the right thing. 2
Mack05 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 (edited) You contradict yourself. I'm sorry miss fussy (I am after a beautiful bottle of wine, didn't realise how my statements would be over analyzed). In hindsight to avoid confusion, I should have re-phrased my comment. In this particular instance there is nothing wrong in her disappearing..The text shows weakness. Her disappearing shows strength (IMO). I accept your opinion is different to mine. I accept many will agree with you. It still doesn't change my stance on the topic. She did the right thing. In your opinion... You really don't like being challenged do you? If someone doesn't agree with your opinion they are automatically wrong? Me: "Star Gazer have a snickers". Star Gazer: "Why". Me: "Cause you turn into a right diva when you're hungry". Me: "Better?" Star gazer: Better... Edited April 13, 2013 by Mack05 1
Mayfare Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I actually think disappearing would have come off as more cowardly, here is why: By disappearing it appears as though you are willing to wait around for him to get back to you on his time. When he finally does, you ignoring him shows that you've stooped to his level and are playing games. This could go on for a long, long time. Disappearing makes it seem like you're waiting around for him to change and that you can't sick up for yourself and just end it. I applaud you on the text. You were willing to give him a face-to-face conversation or a phone call, he was not interested. He gets a text. It's over and now you can move on. 1
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