IS IT Better late Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Damn I'm having a rough day! My relationship was short but i fell hard for her. I woke up this morning replaying all of our dates and all the good times. I can't get her out of my head and its been nearly 2-months. I want the hope to fade. The hope that she regrets her decision, the hope that she misses me as much as I miss her. The hope that she will send the text that says " I really miss you and want to see you". Every time I get a text it crosses my mind. I've never been dumped before this so I just keep denying that this actually happened. We were laughing right up until our last date so that's why its so hard for me to understand. We've gone from LC to NC recently but it's not getting easier for me. Wish I'd never met her! Any advice on accepting the facts and lose the hope? Why can't I accept whats done is done?
soccerrprp Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Damn I'm having a rough day! My relationship was short but i fell hard for her. I woke up this morning replaying all of our dates and all the good times. I can't get her out of my head and its been nearly 2-months. I want the hope to fade. The hope that she regrets her decision, the hope that she misses me as much as I miss her. The hope that she will send the text that says " I really miss you and want to see you". Every time I get a text it crosses my mind. I've never been dumped before this so I just keep denying that this actually happened. We were laughing right up until our last date so that's why its so hard for me to understand. We've gone from LC to NC recently but it's not getting easier for me. Wish I'd never met her! Any advice on accepting the facts and lose the hope? Why can't I accept whats done is done? I don't know what to say exactly. Don't wish that you hadn't met her. Take in the good that happened and do your best to move on. If you did everything that you were supposed to do then you have much to celebrate. Really. It wasn't about you now was it? If she left and you did all that you could, then she is the one who lost out. It's tough. I know. Not only did my relationship with a special ex not work out, but now she is leaving. We were/are close friends. I find myself MUCH more upset about the fact that she is leaving than us breaking up. Anyway, do your best to move on by remembering that you did your part and that, for you, there will be other opportunities. This is not true for everyone.
travelonic Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Damn I'm having a rough day! My relationship was short but i fell hard for her. I woke up this morning replaying all of our dates and all the good times. I can't get her out of my head and its been nearly 2-months. I want the hope to fade. The hope that she regrets her decision, the hope that she misses me as much as I miss her. The hope that she will send the text that says " I really miss you and want to see you". Every time I get a text it crosses my mind. I've never been dumped before this so I just keep denying that this actually happened. We were laughing right up until our last date so that's why its so hard for me to understand. We've gone from LC to NC recently but it's not getting easier for me. Wish I'd never met her! Any advice on accepting the facts and lose the hope? Why can't I accept whats done is done? Well, it takes time to really let what happened soak in, don't expect it to happen at a specific pace - some soak it in quickly, some slowly. I PERSONALLY don't lose hope - I compartmentalize it so I can heal, and move on. Hope is not the enemy, and IMO it's letting hope interfere with that vital time of healing, and letting it not only fester, but create false certainty. 1
Author IS IT Better late Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 Thanks for the advice! I just need to convince my brain that she's not coming back, she gave this up. At the time I felt I did my best but I showed some weakness at the end when she started to drift and I regret that. I just wanted to see her more than she wanted to see me. In the end that equals I lose! And now I'm stuck with the aftermath and I have not be able to move on yet.
J_L_C Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 But I don't think that hope ever really dies completely. I'm going on 9 months now since my terrible breakup and although I realize it's never coming back, I still have hope somewhere in my mind. It's only been over the last month that I've really shifted my thinking patterns. Don't do what I did and stew and stew… I also harassed him begged him pleaded and cried for months and months and months and all that did was drive him further and further away, which created less of a chance for any hope. No contact should definitely help things to a degree. It will help you not to dwell on a daily basis and you just never know if your ex is wondering whatever happened to you.
Jord11 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I am pretty much the same situation as you, I did everything for the girl, always treated her well, done everything to be the best bf too her, I thought things were going well but I guess it wasn't, it feels like I wanted too see her more then she wanted too see me, I'm day 53 no contact, it hurts but I've disappeared from her life, I do have hope left but I'm hanging on, it sucks when you give some more to someone and they don't appreciate it, I really hope one say she regrets what she left behind.
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