Pisces13 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Tonight I saw on Facebook that my ex was out at a birthday party. So, I arranged with a former work colleague of mine (whom I've always thought was very cute) to meet up in the City. We had a great night, and I ended up making out with her at the end of the night. I've only been broken up with my ex for 5 weeks though, and have been in regular contact with her. Although as of last night, she sent me a text message saying that she thought that us being FWB wasn't fair on either of us, and to essentially assist with moving on, it would be better if we didn't do it anymore. I don't feel bad about what I did tonight, but at the same time, I'm wondering what others reckon. Was it too soon for me to go out with the other girl, and make out with her? The way I'm looking at it is that my ex broke up with me, so it's fair game as far as I'm concerned, but the fact we've been in regular contact since makes it kind of feel weird, almost like I went out and cheated tonight (even though in the back of my head I know I did nothing wrong).
guysmily25 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 When I was three weeks into my heartbreak after being dumped, I started texting this other girl a lot, we went on a date, and we kissed at the end. I stopped talking to her out of a strange feeling of guilt, parallel to the one you are feeling. I don't think what you did was wrong. I think I felt guilty because in the back of my mind I was clinging on to a hope that we would end up back together. Silly! Feel happy that other women are interested! Our ex girlfriends left us, so we can do whatever we want. Now, if this new girl starts becoming attached and you are still torn up about your ex, it probably isn't fair to either of you to start a relationship right now. But smooching? No probs. 1
ThorntonMelon Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 You did the right thing. Keep kissing them, and one of them will be someone who you want so bad the ex won't matter anymore.
Author Pisces13 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Thanks for the replies guys! I just saw my ex tagged in on FB at the party and it was almost like I had an epiphany. I was just like "you know what, f**k it, I'm going out and I'm going to have myself a damn good time", and I did I didn't think about the ex really at all either. She was there in the very back of my mind, but I was just focused on the girl I was with, and just having a good time with her.
Author Pisces13 Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 (edited) When I was three weeks into my heartbreak after being dumped, I started texting this other girl a lot, we went on a date, and we kissed at the end. I stopped talking to her out of a strange feeling of guilt, parallel to the one you are feeling. I don't think what you did was wrong. I think I felt guilty because in the back of my mind I was clinging on to a hope that we would end up back together. Silly! Feel happy that other women are interested! Our ex girlfriends left us, so we can do whatever we want. Now, if this new girl starts becoming attached and you are still torn up about your ex, it probably isn't fair to either of you to start a relationship right now. But smooching? No probs. Well that's just it, I had been holding on to hope that we would get back together eventually, but then it hit me last night, what if she doesn't ever come back? And I just spend the next few months or years sitting around at home, wasting away and waiting for something that possibly will or wont happen. You're right though, my ex left me, so I can go out and do and see whoever I like, and that's what I'm going to do I'm not anywhere close to thinking about another relationship at the moment, but I really enjoyed her company last night, and hopefully we see her again soon. Edited April 14, 2013 by Pisces13
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