outsidethebox Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I'm still trying to figure out why's it's not weird for you to call her but weird for her to talk to you. 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 I'm still trying to figure out why's it's not weird for you to call her but weird for her to talk to you. I think u dont get it. She says she does the ebay dates all the time so that's why it seems weird. I just called her 'cause her pic was cute so its not the same thing u know. Anyway I have to get ready to meet her. She text me so she still wants to go . Will tell more when I come back.
ChatroomHero Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I think u dont get it. She says she does the ebay dates all the time so that's why it seems weird. I just called her 'cause her pic was cute so its not the same thing u know. Anyway I have to get ready to meet her. She text me so she still wants to go . Will tell more when I come back. Well it is the same thing you know. She probably sends a pic because she thought it was a good idea for customer service to put a face with who you are working with. It's like having a picture on LinkedIn or a company website, just good business sense as it makes the customer feel the transaction is more personal and more likely to do business again with a good-looking girl sending a cute pic with your order. Seriously, she did not ask you for a date. She sent a picture with your order and did not know if you were a man, woman or a child. You called her for a date because you thought she was good-looking, she did not solicit you, you solicited her for a date and like you I am sure other guys hit on her because of her picture. Tell me how is it any different than online dating? You meet a stranger, have a text or phone conversation, then potentially meet up in person? I think it is weirder to call a girl and ask her for a date because she sent you a picture of herself as part of a transaction than it is for the girl to take a call from you and end up agreeing to a date.
KathyM Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 It sounds like she's doing some PR to improve her customer base, if she routinely goes out with her comic book customers. I'd say she knows how to keep the money flow coming by using a little "romantic interest" to keep her customers' interest coming. Just be aware that her motives may be more commercial than genuine. I could be wrong, but if she routinely dates her customers, and doesn't screen them before dating them, I'd say her motives may be tied to generating income rather than genuinely interested in you as a person. Just sayin . . . 1
SJC2008 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I say go with it but seems like we missed the fact that she included a pic of her and phone number when she had no idea how old op is or seeing what he looked like. OP?
carhill Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 KathyM makes a good point which I feel is something the OP should consider. I've been sideswiped a number of times over the decades by women using sex or the allure thereof to sell their wares and must state they were very convincing and apparently sincere, right until the big sales pitch hit. In this case, if existing, customer retention is/can be the goal. I find this kind of behavior highly distasteful and wrong, insinuating ersatz personal romantic interest to gain monetarily. Can't kill 'em, but social shunning is a highly effective tool against such perps. Put up the billboard and let everyone know.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 Well it is the same thing you know. She probably sends a pic because she thought it was a good idea for customer service to put a face with who you are working with. It's like having a picture on LinkedIn or a company website, just good business sense as it makes the customer feel the transaction is more personal and more likely to do business again with a good-looking girl sending a cute pic with your order. Seriously, she did not ask you for a date. She sent a picture with your order and did not know if you were a man, woman or a child. You called her for a date because you thought she was good-looking, she did not solicit you, you solicited her for a date and like you I am sure other guys hit on her because of her picture. Tell me how is it any different than online dating? You meet a stranger, have a text or phone conversation, then potentially meet up in person? I think it is weirder to call a girl and ask her for a date because she sent you a picture of herself as part of a transaction than it is for the girl to take a call from you and end up agreeing to a date. Yea well the bad news is that it turned out to not really be a date . Emily brought 3 other people with her to the convention & I felt so embarrassed. I really wanted to just go home but couldn't 'cause I was already there u know & the 2 guys & 1 girl she took with her was nice & we all had a convo about the new iron man movie, superman movie, and spiderman movie for next yr. I kept looking at Emily for the whole time & she would smile & pat me on the back & then thats it u know. I tried to call her last night to see if we could go out together just the 2 of us but she didn't answer the phone.
ja123 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I think it might be good just to hang out with Emily and the group of other people. You need some new people in your network (other than what your uncle brings to the table). You never know, Emily or one of the people in the group might have a friend you'd be interested in. Just hang out and enjoy yourself with no expectations.
carhill Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Tip: Accept the dynamic and use such social contacts and events to 'work the room'. The convention, after your solo trip to the movies with her, was the wake-up call. Resist becoming part of her 'harem', but use the common interest (comic books) and social contacts to your advantage. She's a pretty savvy young gal. Learn. Good luck.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 I think it might be good just to hang out with Emily and the group of other people. You need some new people in your network (other than what your uncle brings to the table). You never know, Emily or one of the people in the group might have a friend you'd be interested in. Just hang out and enjoy yourself with no expectations. I guess so. I said this to my coworker & friend last night & they think she's a cute girl using that to her advantage to keep guys happy & stuff. My uncle said nothing as usual . I guess if I text her & ask to hang out with friends of hers she'll answer huh? And um, not think I'm trying to hit on her? But I am attracted to her though u know. She's really smart & pretty.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 It sounds like she's doing some PR to improve her customer base, if she routinely goes out with her comic book customers. I'd say she knows how to keep the money flow coming by using a little "romantic interest" to keep her customers' interest coming. Just be aware that her motives may be more commercial than genuine. I could be wrong, but if she routinely dates her customers, and doesn't screen them before dating them, I'd say her motives may be tied to generating income rather than genuinely interested in you as a person. Just sayin . . . I agree with this. I used to sell various female products. What was the first thing I did? Charmed my customers. I was never interested in them for more than a consistent customer (and maybe a lay). Just keep that in mind, OP. If something seems too good to be true, it probably is.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Yea well the bad news is that it turned out to not really be a date . Emily brought 3 other people with her to the convention & I felt so embarrassed. I really wanted to just go home but couldn't 'cause I was already there u know & the 2 guys & 1 girl she took with her was nice & we all had a convo about the new iron man movie, superman movie, and spiderman movie for next yr. I kept looking at Emily for the whole time & she would smile & pat me on the back & then thats it u know. I tried to call her last night to see if we could go out together just the 2 of us but she didn't answer the phone. I didn't read this before my last post. So my bad for rubbing it in. Still though, now you know. So what did we learn here: 1) If something seems too good to be true, it usually is. 2) Never get your hopes up about a woman too early (though, there are arguments out there that suggest to always expect disappointment....if you're going for relationships, that is).
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