pinkstar Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Hi, I met this guy back in Dec. He's my colleague at work but working in another office located in another city. I went to that city for Christmas holiday and my other friend introduced him to me and asked me to contact him so he can show me around . We started chatting using company chat system 2-3 weeks before my visit. I went there and we met. He showed me around and invited me for dinner. honestly, I did not like him at the beginning...but he was nice and polite. My mind wasn't just ready to think about our meeting as a date at all. After our meeting, he added me on facebook and we continued chatting. ( only text chat, no phone calls or sms). Last month he told me they are moving him to my city for work in our office. He was very excited and started calling and texting me... to be honest, one of the main reason I did not want to even think about him, is because I am a victim of LDR...and I did not want to get stuck in another LDR. But the scenario changed and he moved to my city and now we are working in the same team. I met him for the second time, last Monday at work. When I saw him again and looked into his eyes....my heart started racing... really hard... I'm not a teenager... and it rarely happened to me recently to fall for some one in short period of time. He's from the same background as me, which is a good point..older than me, educated and he has everything I want ... I'm trying not to show my interest that much, but I really don't know what to do...he comes and talks to me for a long time during work every day and talk about everything not only work... the problem is..he did not ask me out and I am upset..as a girl.. I really don't know what to do..please help.
creighton0123 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I would be very, VERY careful with this. You are working on the same team and he might just be friendly in a coworker friendship way. Dating someone who works with you runs a higher risk of damage if it doesn't work out and, if not reciprocated, can mean a very uncomfortable conversation with your manager or human resources. Be very careful and do not use work time or resources (like the IM system or email) to pursue this if you choose to.
Author pinkstar Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 thanks for your answer...I need to add , we are talking another language = which is NOT English and we are living in an English speaking country. We are not using company chat system any more, since last week he moved to my office, and even before that, we did not chat in English in the system at all . Another point is, I am working as a contractor here and my contract ended with this company already and they gave me notice. I will finish my job in 2 weeks time... unfortunately. So, I won't see him any more at work. Maybe you are right, I am so desperate..to think he might have some interest ... or maybe because we are from the same country and know each other before, he is just comfortable talking to me... I hate this situation now at work, I am very upset to lose my job and on the other hand, not be able to see him once I finish my work here... I need advice what to do ...or what not to do in the remaining two weeks..or maybe after that about him.
creighton0123 Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 You're not desperate in thinking that there might be interest on his part. It's not desperate at all. I would recommend waiting a week and when you're on your way out, ask him if he would like to go on a date some time. If he says yes, grand. If he says no... well... you won't have the awkwardness of working with him.
Author pinkstar Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Just an update, my job finished already 3 weeks ago... I didn't dare to ask him for a date.. So I said bye and left. He text me after 3 days ... To ask how I am going... I replied him ... Until now, he text me mostly in weekend ... I was friendly but didn't call him , maybe I'm so cautious I'm definitely interested and like him.. He didn't ask me out yesterday was my bday and he text me again ... I really don't know what to do .. Is it stupid I call him and ask him out for an event ? He's new in Sydney ( my city ) ... Is it cheap to do so ?
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