Starrdust Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Hey, I was recently dumped as you probably all know by now from my regular posts. Yesterday I was having an excellent day, I felt strong and had the thought that I was moving on. Even made a post called " my break up experience and what I've learnt". BUT TODAY, it's the complete opposite. I feel so guilty for being happy yesterday about moving on from my ex. It's so strange how u can feel so extreme one day and then another the next day. Today all I keep thinking is " I want him back, this sucks, I thought I'd hear from him by now, what did I do wrong" This has raised two questions for me: Why do break ups make you feel bipolar? Why does it seem like the ex's lack of contact is a sign that there not scared to lose u because they don't think ur special enough to fight for or are missing out on anything?
Sweetnothing Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Ughhhh yes!!!! I go from being complete fine and thinking "f*ck him! I'm better off" and going to bars and chatting up cute guys to writing (but not sending!) long texts about how much I miss him and crying and binge eating frozen yogurt.
Sexy Teddy Bear Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Dont feel guilty about it. I haven't read your other posts, but you probably had a good reason to break up with him. As for the lack of contact from him, i cant say with certainty since I dont know him, but I can tell you why I stopped contact. At first I tried to get my girl back, to no avail. I soon learned my lesson and went no contact. I haven't contacted her in over 2 months. The reason i stopped is because i knew it was completely useless. There was no point. She already made her choice. There was no way i could get her back. And continuing to contact her will only make it worse for me. Like I said, i dont know your situation, but maybe your ex is going NC for the same reasons I am. PS, im typing this on my ipod at work, so i appologize if it is inadaquet and/or has poor spelling and grammar.
h3braica Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 it's a roller coaster of emotions and it's torturing me. Many times I feel that I am losing my mind. It's been 3 mos but I am still thinking about him all the time. I managed to keep myself busy to forget him and heal my heart but it's really hard. Still having ups and downs, cried a lot. Always hope that tomorrow is a better day and the pain i feel will soon fade away. I know he will never come back.
brokenhearted91 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I'm totally the same, sometimes I feel untouchable, like my whole life is ahead of me, thanks for the memories but lets make some more....and other times I feel as bad as the day it happened and in just total shock. I'm guessing this is normal and part of moving towards 'healing', and I'm guessing there will come a point where it's all highs and no lows. Just gotta hang in there till then.
ab5 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 It's been almost 8 months for me and I still go up and down. One day I'll be ok, convinced that things happened for the best, and have hope for the future. Then the next day Ill be so low, feel hopeless, feel like everything that happened in the relationship was solely my fault, replaying our whole relationship in my head over and over and wishing I didn't say and behave the way I did.... It gets to the point where I can't stop crying and get urges to contact my ex. And the cycle continues. I'm scared that it's never going to stop. Before my ex came into my life, I was the happiest, most carefree person. Now I feel like a completely different person. I pray that I can get my old self back one day(which seems impossible at this point) b/c it's too hard living with the emotional swings. 1
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