cryingbaby Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 7 months courtship 1 yr relationship (all these happened through social media, skype, text, call) A month after our 1st anniv she broke up with me due to what she called irreconcilable differences because it's an LDR. 10+ hrs time difference. Night time there, day time here. She said im so demanding etc. but i did my best to make the relationship work. Imagine the time, money, emotion iiinvested. Though i know she did love me but why walk out instead of fixin it? 2wks after the BU i got drunk and drunktext her begging etc she said no. after that i decided the NC it lasted for 2mos. Then on the 3rd month after the BU i visited our country. My bff told me i need to see her in person since maybe this will the 1st and last time to see her and she deserves to hear what she needs to hear from me. I met her finlly. We talked. Said sorry. She Said there's no 3rd party etc. and just lost interest inour relationship because we always argue. We ended up like good friends we still text, fb, call. To make the story short, The meet up happened again. 6x or more before i came back here in the US. We watch movie. I take her home and there's always intimacy whenever we see each other. We kiss. (She always kiss me when im asleep. she didnt know i never sleep. Im just pretending) we hug and .. Ugh! We did more than that. When i asked her why she let ithappen. Asked if she still loves me. She Said yes but not as intense as before. I asked her if i can get her back. She said, not now. Now what? Am i stupid to let it happen? I havent heard from her for 2weeks. Im back here and she was there. Should i pursue her? Bug her? Or let her go? I wanna block her on fb but im confused. I cant help but jealous seeing her with her pics at fb with her friends but What if shes just waiting for me? But what if she just lied that there's noone else? Help me guys. Im confused. BTW, this is a same sex relationship. I hope hope you'll accept me. I just need a good advice to heal my broken heart. Thank you guys. I appreciate it.
Author cryingbaby Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 I just wanna knowif it's right in the 1st place to communicate with her. It's been 5 month but Seems like im back to square one because i let it happened. My emotion ruled over me. I should stick to NC.
richard9 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Sounds like you have invested far more in the relationship than she has, she knows how you feel but she doesnt want to commit as you do. Her "not now" reply indicates she has all the control in the relationship, its her who decides. This is not a good place to be and tbh if she felt the same way she would have reciprocated your feelings. Tbh I think you need to try move on with your own life, that in itself would be more attractive to her rather than waiting for her decision. If she doesnt feel the same way dont wait for her. Just my thoughts.
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